If you huff and puff constantly, why?

[TheChewdors]

Genuine question. And yes, I know that in some cases it might be down to a medical condition. But if it’s not due to medical reasons, why do you do it?

I went into town earlier and came across two people, in separate shops, who were looking around, and constantly huffing and sighing. Then I went into a third shop, and the woman serving me was sighing loudly as she served me.

I think, unless it’s for a medical reason, that it’s actually pretty rude and anti social to walk around doing it!

I read a book about disordered breathing yesterday. Apparently 1 person in 10 has this. Frequent sighing and/or yawning are signs.

Doctors know very little about it, strangely. I only know about this because I happen to know a repository physio.

It’s extremely rude not to mention annoying as hell!

I'm not a sigher myself , but I quite like it as a quality in someone else. It feels very British. Like tutting. Or Scones.

You've reminded me of sitting my 'O' levels (yes, that long ago) sitting next to a girl who huffed and sighed continually all the way through every paper. It was incredibly distracting (that's my excuse for failing Maths, anyway).

It would be total silence and then a sigh, then a huff, then another sigh then more silence.

I just asked my very spoilt dog who is the huffer and puffer in this house and he simply replied stop gabbing and get me a slice of that cheese, I’m dying here. So I’m none the wiser.

Are they ‘huffing and puffing’ at you?

This made me laugh out loud

I do sigh 😄😄😄. And I groan when sitting down and getting up

Dunno - i'm turning 35 and things just irritate me. Partly that and partly because I am tired

Like why does dd(7) take forever to get in and out of the car?? Why are people all over the place in asda? Why do men drive like that?

Dont always know I'm doing it, i'm blaming getting older

It can be a symptom of iron deficiency.

I would be asking myself why my behaviour is causing so many people to huff and puff around me that I am noticing it.

There's definitely a performative aspect - look how hard done by I am - which is so tedious but I think it can just be habit. I didn't realise I did it until DS started copying me when he was toddler...seeing a 2 year old mirror you is quite eye-opening! Hands on hips, deep sigh and 'right then' in a little Yorkshire accent 😆

I used to have an older female friend that huffed and puffed a lot in public, but even worse than that she would often show her disdain about someone or something with a very obvious loud sniff.

I just couldn’t put up with the rude misery guts.

To answer your question
yes I do
and no I don’t know why. It’s not connected to my mood at all, I just feel I need a deep breath every so often. Wasn’t aware I did it until it was pointed out to me a few years ago by someone who was plainly annoyed by it. Oh well.

I used to sigh at work (apparently) but that was a long time ago now and the woman I worked with was a two faced bitch. There may be a correlation as I haven’t sighed at work since leaving that particular company.

My mum and dad huff and puff constantly (I see it when visiting). I wonder if it's connected to old age or heart issues maybe? However I can tell they also do it to convey dissatisfaction generally. My dad in particular loves everyone to know when he's grumpy, which is essentially all of the time.

I hate it!

Because I'm obviously not as wonderful at breathing as you are. So sorry Ma'am.

To blow your house down?

Oh God, I work with somehow does this. It’s done performativly, so you ask her what’s wrong. Fucking grinds my gears.

My ex did it when he thought his time was more important than what he had to do. Everyone had to know how hard done by he was.

Exactly. It’s taken somatic therapy to make me realise I’m a crap breather (shallow little breaths, a tendency to hold my breath when upset), so I make a point of taking deep breaths and letting them out periodically. It has nothing to do with annoyance.

My DH is a huffer, he generally does it in a different room when he’s trying to get attention, for example if he can’t find something

Whatever the reason, it usually works in driving me mad!

Wow yoire getting some right arsey responses and some world class gaslighting on here op.

Ive got copd so am a champion huff and puffer 😁 but I know the type of sighing you mean and ime its just because they're fed up with what they're doing or theyve got going on. It's really not so much at or about you, it's about them.

Best thing is to ignore it and not take it personally.

I do this

But it's a recent thing, since age 40

I do this because I'm trying to get out the house with two young kids and it's a nightmare and completely overstimulating and exhausting. Then my toddler copies me and I realise i do it all the time. 😭

I’m afraid my mum does this. She wants people to know she’s suffering but won’t use her words. I ignore it and cheerfully get on with whatever we’re doing. My brother and I both get these treatment- we’ve both adopted the same strategy of working around the annoying behaviour, so she thinks we’re both heartless, despite the fact that we do masses for her.