to be hacked off that DH is "working from home"

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Wouldn't mind if he wasn't harrumphing because I'm making too much noise! Erm... loading the dishwasher, cleaning, boiling the kettle? I had to wait to do the hoovering! I have some friends coming for lunch and have been asked to decide whether we're going to be inside or out, because he'll choose his room accordingly so he can't hear us talking (but not the flipping study, which is upstairs and QUIET, fgs!) What if we change our minds, and it gets too nippy to be comfortable outside? I've told him he should go to the b** office to work if he doesn't like the conditions here. He says it's his home and he should be able to work here if he chooses. BAH! GRUMP! MOAN!

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Oh I LOATHE this! Do they not know they are supposed to work in the office and the house is MINE to do in what I like until 6.30pm. Especially when I'm on a day off - the computer is MINE! And if he is working from home and I'm at work the very LEAST he could do is hoover, iron, unload/reload dishwasher/washing machine/tidy up/pick dcs up from school/cook dinner cos he has been on his lazy ar$e all day working.

You are definately NBU

God you're not being unreasonable.

Maybe he can come and be buddies with my dh - who is between jobs/semi-retired/working from home (depending on his mood) and has started taking an unhealthy interest in the dishwasher tablets and appropriate temperatures for dfferent loads of washing.

dh hates it when i work from home when he is looking after dd as i keep chipping in and telling him to go to the park etc. i have no sympathy for him and therefore none for you!

He is definitely BU

I used to work from home quite a bit before DD was born, I have tried it a couple of times since but with a little one in the house or even DW it's too easy to get distracted. I eventually had to set up the office desk I used to have in DD's room in a corner of the shed so that I can keep out of the house {{need a sad and neglected emoticon here}}. So I have a bit of sympathy with your DH, but then again if DW was having people round I would either have stayed at the office or just give up on that time for working and catch up in the evening.

Ditto Chequers - if I get up to go to the toilet he's in my chair like a shot checking his emails, ebay or whatever - drives me bats!

Actually I don't think your dh is being unreasonable if he works from home and that's his set up - or do you mean he does actually have an office to use elsewhere if he wanted to (I work from home and the office at home is my office - that's it, I'm self employed).

My dad used to be like this - actually it was worse, as he had a perfectly good study upstairs (the largest of our bedrooms, actually) but used to decamp with all his effing papers to work in the dining room. Every day. (He was an academic.) You had to be quiet around him.

I by contrast do work from home a lot of the time - I am a journalist - but have an office specifically for working.