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Is this a cold sore?

38 replies

FootballOn · 24/07/2026 16:47

Assistance needed please!
When you have the beginnings of a cold sore, what does it look like and how does it feel?

9yr old has a red dot on the outside of her lip and one red dot on her actual lip and says her lip feels dry/cracked even though it isn’t dry.
Is this a cold sore?

Is this a cold sore?
OP posts:
FootballOn · 24/07/2026 21:47

@chocciebiscuits Thanks for your reply - she does kiss her little brother constantly 🫣 but how would she have got one herself if nobody has kissed her???

OP posts:
chocciebiscuits · 24/07/2026 21:49

I don’t think it is one tbh. My daughter had something that looked like this and it turned out to be impetigo

Amiiee · 24/07/2026 22:00

chocciebiscuits · 24/07/2026 21:43

FWIW OP, I have a real fear of cold sores in my kids for reasons I won’t go into. I know they are harmless and so many of us carry the virus in our bodies anyway. I got in contact with the heroes association to ask some questions a while back and they confirmed to me they are ONLY passed by kissing. NOT sharing drinks/recorders etc with someone as the virus is fragile and dies outside the body. So as long as your daughter is careful not to kiss your toddler or anyone else (if it even is one which it doesn’t look like to me) you will all be ok x

That's not true

chocciebiscuits · 24/07/2026 22:04

That’s fine. You can take it up with Herpes.org.uk Amiiee who have spent years researching this x

Amiiee · 24/07/2026 22:05

chocciebiscuits · 24/07/2026 22:04

That’s fine. You can take it up with Herpes.org.uk Amiiee who have spent years researching this x

That organisation is biased. The virus begins to degrade within about 10 seconds out of the body, yes.

whereisit1 · 24/07/2026 22:07

It doesn't look like a cold sore to me. They are mega painful even from the outset and the first one is the worst. They feel like a painful spider's nest is about to burst out of your lip. Bloody awful things.

TheDenimPoet · 24/07/2026 22:11

MaryBeardsShoes · 24/07/2026 21:10

Hmm. Not sure this is accurate? People can carry the virus without ever showing symptoms. OP could easily have it without knowing.

Yes but you can only pass it on if you have an active sore. So that wouldn't work.

Amiiee · 24/07/2026 22:11

TheDenimPoet · 24/07/2026 22:11

Yes but you can only pass it on if you have an active sore. So that wouldn't work.

No it can spread asymptomatically.

Crwysmam · 24/07/2026 23:20

Firstly it doesn’t look typical for a cold sore, I’m a dentist so get to see them really close up at all stages.

Secondly go to the NHS site and read up on how we end up with cold sores. In order for them to affect you, you first need to have had a primary infection which usually involves high temperature, a mouthful of ulcers and a week or so of being quite poorly. It is a bit similar to hand , foot and mouth or chickenpox so is often missed. Not everyone develops the secondary infection, recurrent cold sores.

After primary infection the virus takes up residence in the trigeminal ganglion ( the junction box where the sensory nerve that supplies your face, teeth and mouth divides into the three main nerve branches), when the immune system is compromised by a cold or similar the virus is able to sneak past the busy immune system and travels along a branch of the nerve ending up at the terminal ends of the branch. The lip is only one area that can be affected, in the mouth you often see a cold sore like lesion on the palate where there are terminal nerve endings. You often see them inside the nose, theoretically anywhere where there are clusters of nerve endings.

Although for most people they are a painful inconvenience, if you suffer with them you need to be aware that they are infectious and that it is possible for them to cause life threatening complications. They can cause meningo-encephalitis, as can other members of the herpes family, such as chickenpox, but these complications are very rare. Anti virals are very effective treatments.

The encephalitis is more likely with the primary infection or in immunosuppressed patients. I was caught out when my DS had chickenpox and like most of us assumed his persistent high temp was par for the course. He ended up in hospital with suspected viral meningitis.

Pieceofpurplesky · 24/07/2026 23:36

Mine look like that when they start. I take lysine daily to keep mine away as I suffered so badly. If it does develop get her to the doctors when it is there and ask for help (as an adult there is aclivor etc but not sure about a child)

TwoBagsOfCompost · 24/07/2026 23:40

FootballOn · 24/07/2026 20:36

I’ve just smothered some Zovirax on in case.
do you think it LOOKS like a coldsore?
Thanks for your replies ❤️

I am unlucky enough to have cold sores a few times a year and the photo looks nothing like my cold sores. Plus from your DDs description and the fact she’s not saying she’s feeling tingling/burning sensation, again I’d say it doesn’t sound like the cold sores I get. But this doesn’t necessarily mean that it isn’t! Good move about the Zovirax. What I find super helpful is to dab a cotton ball with surgical spirit on it, or TCP. It helps me massively with managing the symptoms.

Pieceofpurplesky · 24/07/2026 23:46

TwoBagsOfCompost · 24/07/2026 23:40

I am unlucky enough to have cold sores a few times a year and the photo looks nothing like my cold sores. Plus from your DDs description and the fact she’s not saying she’s feeling tingling/burning sensation, again I’d say it doesn’t sound like the cold sores I get. But this doesn’t necessarily mean that it isn’t! Good move about the Zovirax. What I find super helpful is to dab a cotton ball with surgical spirit on it, or TCP. It helps me massively with managing the symptoms.

@TwoBagsOfCompost do you take lysine - it's a game changer!

TwoBagsOfCompost · 24/07/2026 23:49

Pieceofpurplesky · 24/07/2026 23:46

@TwoBagsOfCompost do you take lysine - it's a game changer!

First I hear about this, normally I just grin (!!) and bear it just with some analgesia, Zovirax, and multiple surgical spirit dabs every day. God I had a horrendous one last year, it was the size of the moon and went on for two weeks. Shudder. Will look into lysine thank you!

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