Ex lives several hours away (his choice) and never has or never has had DD overnight, even when he was closer. Again his choice. If anything I encouraged contact as I felt it was good for Dd to have a relationship with her father. Dd is 3.
He agreed to take two days off next week so that I could attend a work seminar and he said he would get a hotel overnight (this is what he does on a Saturday night on the weekends he drives up to see her).
He told me this morning he will be driving through the night, a 5 hour drive, to be at our house for 7:30am for me to get to work on time. I asked why he said wasn’t getting a hotel and he simply said he wants to work late the night before and it’s not necessary as he will drive at 3am. This means he essentially won’t have any or much sleep and then will be with Dd all day and taking her out to places as he doesn’t stay in my home when he sees her.
AIBU to feel this is really reckless and shit of him? He has a hard job (as do I) and I don’t think it’s wise to then do a long drive then expect to be safe and alert when looking after Dd. Am I over-worrying?