Aibu to overthink a booster seat in boyfriend’s car?

[rachel55488]

So I took my partners car this morning and there was a booster seat in the back of his car.. and his kids are older.. teenager and other one in their 20s. My daughter has been in his car but I don’t ever remember her bein in a booster seat is this dodgy lookin??

And the one she 'accused of meeting a girl' because he went for a coastal drive on a sunny day

I think a child's booster seat is about the least dodgy thing someone could have in their car.

What does your daughter sit in when she is in his car?

Is your boyfriend very short?
Could it be his?

Just ask him. Most people would ask straight away.
How can you be in a relationship with someone you can’t talk to?

Its not exactly a bizarre thing for someone who regularly has a 6 year old to have in their car.

Surely your dd has a carseat of sorts?maybe he got one for his car and forgot to tell you .

TYou have a 6 year old. He has driven her somewhere in the past. It seems like a no brainer to me - he has one for her? But i fyou're this suspicious either your gut instinct says he's not trustworthy, in which case, he's not for you. Or you're completely paranoid in which case you're not for him and you shold spend some time working on yourself.

PS my DC don't need boosters. I still have one in my car becuase we do occassionally drive nephew around and recently w ewere goign to ditch it as he doesn't need it any more and then we realised that we might have family visiting so we tossed it back in the boot in case. Pretty normal.

I thought the same. Is this man her dad and why does OP not know about booster seats for her child?

Yes, and the numerous other ones.

How has he not run for the hills?

For heaven’s sake OP. Yet another thread about this ‘relationship’. Would you ever cop on!

I don’t understand why you think any of us would know

6 yr olds should definitely still be in a booster

Any normal person would say 'oh, why the booster?' have you ever had a conversation with this man?

Ask him…….you've more chance of speaking to him than all of us on MN!

I agree. How is he your "partner" if you don't have a basic level of trust? And how are you trusting him with the person most precious to you (your daughter) if you can't ask him a simple question?

Ok cool, thank you. I thought so but nobody in my family drives.

So far the only red flags here are either that you don’t feel that you can ask him this simple question for fear of his reaction, or for him, that you seem completely paranoid and unable to communicate.

It could be the simplest answer, like he got it for your child to use.

OP if you're posting regularly about being suspicious of tiny things your BF is doing, perhaps you should seek help for relationship OCD.

The girl in this article is worried she'll cheat, but it could take many forms such as ruminating that your partner is cheating.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ce9592kve1po

Unless she is extraordinarily tall for her age (over 135cm - about 4ft 5.2in), she must be in a booster seat. If she isn't, the driver is committing an offence unless one of the exceptions applies (which they don't in this case). So I expect it is for her. However, I share the astonishment of others on this thread that you haven't simply asked him. Unless you have reason to fear his reaction (in which case, why are you with him), asking him is the sensible thing to do. If I were him and discovered your OP, I would regard that as a huge red flag.

So it would be illegal for her to be in a car without at least a booster seat, ideally a high backed booster then. Presumably, if he takes you and your daughter out in his car he is trying to keep her safe and avoid points on his license? I would be far more concerned if he was willing to take her in the car without a booster!

And she returns. Do you not have a job, OP. Poor fictitious guy 🙄

Actual LOL

I wouldn’t worry too much. Said boyfriend doesn’t exist - luckily.

Could be anything surely?

Giving a lift to a friend or family member who has a child.

Maybe it’s an old booster he means to take to the charity shop.

Ask him!