Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To hate it when someone starts a thread deliberately aimed at belittling someone who has posted a thread on here

26 replies

alicet · 25/06/2008 19:57

I hate this. Just post on the original thread for goodness sake and don't start a new one to try and make them feel small.

OK so I know I have just done the same so clearly IABU. Don't care though!

OP posts:
forevercleaning · 25/06/2008 19:59

what thread do you mean?!

Hulababy · 25/06/2008 19:59

I suspect I know the thread you mean tonight. Haven't read the second thread, but yes IKWYM - sentiments don't seem very nice judging by the thread title does it?

Elmosgirl · 25/06/2008 19:59

Yes I agree, but am now dying to know which thread has made you post this?

forevercleaning · 25/06/2008 20:01

oh come on!! Lead us over there!

alicet · 25/06/2008 20:02

Original Thread

Unnecessary bitchy second thread

OP posts:
BetteNoire · 25/06/2008 20:02
alicet · 25/06/2008 20:02

Can understand both points of view by the way. That's not the point - I just think it's unneccesary and bitchy to start that second thread rather than just posting your opinions on the original one...

OP posts:
BetteNoire · 25/06/2008 20:03

Oh

GivePeasAChance · 25/06/2008 20:04

Haven't you just done exactly what you hate ?

SaintGeorge · 25/06/2008 20:06

The opinions posted on the original thread were bitchy enough, the 2nd thread was totally out of order.

I am surprised more people did not pull the OP up about it. The only reasons I didn't post to say something are

a) sitting on hands because hormonal and might post something I really regret
and
b) didn't want to bump thread back up again.

alicet · 25/06/2008 20:06

OH I know I have givepeasachance - I said as much in my OP. So IABU by my own defnition. Think I was a little less personally insulting though!

OP posts:
Anna8888 · 25/06/2008 20:06

Completely agree - totally off behaviour to start a thread being nasty about another thread.

alicet · 25/06/2008 20:06

Saintgeorge ditto me!

OP posts:
Anna8888 · 25/06/2008 20:07

If this happens to you tell MNHQ they will pull the thread btw - it's a "personal attack".

BetteNoire · 25/06/2008 20:07

Second thread is vile.
StG, am also surprised no-one else commented.
OP of original thread has been madly misquoted, I feel.

paperdoll · 25/06/2008 20:08

Completely agree. Now there are loads of other little threads about it in a sarky tone - v v confusing and weird.

Goober · 25/06/2008 20:09

A bitch-fest is underway.

paperdoll · 25/06/2008 20:10

mumsnet.com/Talk/1375/555475

and

mumsnet.com/Talk/1375/555476

Do they mean me, or maybe you, or someone else ... ?

[returns to pot on stove, musing]

Flibbertyjibbet · 25/06/2008 20:12

Am I now posting on 3rd bitchy thread?
If you don't agree with a thread, then post about it ON THE THREAD IN QUESTION.

Starting another thread is like bitching behind the original thread posters back. Only its not behind their back cos they can read it, durrrrr.

Heffagooday · 25/06/2008 20:12

I thought it was all pretty horrible as well. Am feeling very guilty that I haven't commented actually

alicet · 25/06/2008 20:13

This happens all the time though. I am all for people being able to post about any topic they like but I just think deliberate sniping to each other is not what Mumsnet should be about.

Sure, vent on here about things that annoy you, and accept that people will have differing opinions - that's life afterall. And if you post in this section you do need to be prepared to take some strong criticism esp if it's about a contentious subject. But I hate this deliberately trying to make one person feel shit. It's bullying really in my opinion

OP posts:
paperdoll · 25/06/2008 20:14

Flibberty, I did post about it on the thread in question, and then that thread pretty much died. I think.

alicet · 25/06/2008 20:17

I have to say I didn't post as like Saintgeorge I didn't think it deserved being bumped. So accept the criticism that I am simply bitching behind their back. Except not as they cvan read this whenever they like!

I know IABU to start this thread as I am doing what I am criticising - I said so in the OP

OP posts:
kittywise · 25/06/2008 20:18

Yep it's shitty immature behaviour.

lucyellensmum · 25/06/2008 20:20

I think we just need to get both OPs into a room and let them discuss it in private