To think people need to engage their brains before posting?

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Ok, so it’s not a huge deal in itself but it really irritates me.

2 examples from the Facebook group for our local area just today but countless other examples.

Our local police force posted about a teenager who seems to have gone missing. Someone commented ‘try looking at her Facebook, Instagram etc ‘ . If the police hadn’t already thought of doing that then the country is in a worse place than I thought.

Someone posted that they’ve lost their keys between shop A and shop B. It was suggested that they contact shop A, B and those inbetween to see if they had been handed in.

These are only a couple of examples, so many similar.

I know people are just trying to be helpful but for some reason these ‘stating the bleeding obvious’ posts really irritate me. Maybe I am being unreasonable but feel better for getting it off my chest (and another one ‘contact her mates and see if any of them have heard from her’. I mean really - and these are suggestions to the police!

I really laughed at reply to a post from Prof Hannah Fry. It was about cooling a car down by moving the air through. (Back window open & slam front door shut?)

she starts the posts by saying that’s what her research/specialty was in.

Then Someone comes and comments “but you’re just moving the hot air from outside to in so the car will be even hotter now”

Yes Janet that is such a ‘gotcha’ moment. 🙄

Oh yes, I sometimes wonder if some posters actually had the telly on at all!

These will be the same people who, throughout my entire 20+ career have asked:
"But why do I need to pass an English exam? I speak it dead good. "
And:
"Why do I need English to be a ......?"

Posting about having a disability brings posters like this out the woodwork. Any time you try and vent about how you struggle with something ends in a flood of "have you tried super obvious thing?".

It's quite dehumanising to have stuff like "have you tried turning the volume up" in response to venting about not being able to find a phone I can hear properly (I'm deaf).

If you thought of something in less than a minute, please just assume the person actually living with a disability may have also thought of it, tried it, and dismissed it as a viable option. Or just don't offer suggestions unless they were actually asked for.

A local FB post warned women to be on the lookout for a man in the park who was bothering women.

A woman posted something like “this is why women need to do self defence courses”.

Cue at least three men replied saying “you’ll never be able to take on that bloke, best just to run away”

Great thanks STEVE, women never think to run, we just love fighting perverts in parks that’s exactly why I sent my 15yo to a self defence course.

I don't mind the keys scenario because people posting this sort of stuff genuinely might not have thought of actually going to have a look - but the police ones annoy me a lot.
It's like they expect the police to update like a crime series ....Jane: I wonder if the police thought of interviewing the guy running from the scene with the hatchet? Bob: Why have the said they are looking for a white male? Eric: I wonder if they have checked the riverboat where Riverboat Jack was living?

I would quite like an algorithm where if someone says exactly the same useless thing as 400 other people, that their comments were not accepted. (Or at least, they were asked "do you really want to post the same useless comment as 400 other people?")

I always thinks some of the really idiotic replies of stating the bleeding obvious is from people just desperate to see their names on posts on that day's local FB page so they look as if they are adding something relevant to what's going on.

Dimwits

You get it on MN threads. Someone joins a thread 15 pages in with "I haven't read the thread, but have you thought of (insert bloody obvious thing already mentioned in the OP and covered in the first three responses)"

I've never been bothered about Facebook or social media generally, so I made the mistake of agreeing to run the Facebook page of a long-running running event I help organise in our town - basically posting info and answering questions. Never, ever again; not for all the tea in China. A fairly typical exchange would be:

[Me]'...please note that vehicular access to the market place will be restricted between midday and 3pm and you might have a bit of a wait to get through'
[Facebook moron]'Well I ned to get down Back Lane in my van at 8am I'm coming thru anyway don't try to stop me some of us have work to do'
[Me]'You'll be fine as it is the market place that is affected between midday and 3pm, not Back Lane and not at 8am'
[Facebook moron]'You can't just shut the road I pay road tax bloody govermunt'
[Me]'We have liaised with the council, the highways authority, the emergency services etc, everything has been done by the book'
[Facebook moron]'I pay road tax'

...and about another 1,000 similar examples. I now avoid local Facebook groups entirely as I don't want to be faced with such clear evidence of just how thick and nasty some of the people you see around town really are

Tonight’s little gem from a holiday resort group:
‘My daughter lost a necklace near xxx restaurant, if anyone has found it please let me know as it has great sentimental value’

First commebt in response: ‘if someone has stolen it off her she is unlikely to get iit baxk’

Another ‘no shit Sherlock’ moment

I used to work in a university and frequently had this sort of response from students who clearly hadn't read more than the first sentence of some detailed email I had sent out (with bullet points). I just used to reply - "please read my previous email".

Cancel the cheque is my advice

The ones which drive me mad are they "Is anyone available to bath tomorrow morning" or "Anyone know any taxi firms" Surely it would be quicker to just google the number of a plumber / local taxi than open Facebook, make a post and hang about all day waiting for the replies.

We are near an airport. About 100 people a day ( seems like) ask the local FB about transfers.
There was a bad car crash in a car park near us recently in a public place.
Every Facebook detective was out in force commenting, ‘driver going too fast’ ‘ driver had a medical emergency’ ‘ have the police looked at cctv’ etc etc. stating their opinions as if they are facts.
A lot of the comments had ‘would of , should of’ in which also really annoyed me 😂

Depressingly, every visit and phone call with my ILs is exactly like this and has been for 15 years. I suspect they’re the ones everyone laughs at on their local FB.

I can probably think of only once where someone asked "have you tried?" and it was actually helpful. I struggle with picture instructions and someone suggested looking on YouTube

I once had someone suggest that I could see better if I just wore stronger glasses. By this point I'd been under a consultant for some 25 odd years who had obviously considered that. They actually do very little to help

This! I get so annoyed when programmes do flashback scenes, as if we’re that dense we didn’t pickup on something so obvious, but there are those who are that dense. Drives me mad.

I love a nose on Tattle every now and then, a woman was talking about quite a serious caffeine addiction. A helpful poster had asked her if she’d tried weening herself off.

They're hilarious to be be fair.

Police asking for witnesses to e g a car theft "does anyone had cctv" - yeah, pretty sure old plod have the covered you muppet.

You see it here all the time. I have to remind myself that many here are less bright than people I know in the real world.

I can understand that better if people are looking for recommendations though.

You see this on here a lot. "My DS14 is having trouble with...."

"How old is your child?"
"Boy or girl?"

Fair enough, if you're new to Mumsnet and don't know the abbreviations, but then lurk a little until you do, or look them up before jumping in to comment.

Also: "I asked AI for you, OP and this is what it said." As if asking AI is some special skill and the OP can't possibly do so themselves. Or like AI is more likely to have some incredible insight into OP's, more so than a poster who has lived what OP has lived.

I had a friend like this. She always wanted to be the first to reply even if it was to inform me she had no idea what I'm talking about

Yep, fair point if they want a recommendation. It's the ones that seem to think the local Facebook page is like a booking service that annoy me.

Yes and you make a good point. People come on social media to have a chat. Chatting often includes repetition, stating the obvious and going off on a tangent. It's not a board meeting between busy executives. Participants can't really accuse other participants of wasting their valuable time. All of it is chat.