AIBU to want cuddles without intimate touching after 20 years?

[snoopinginstlye]

only ever had the one lover / boyfriend / husband just want to ask if this is normal …..we can never just cuddle my husband as soon as we have skin contact (in bed) he has to touch intimate parts he says he likes skin contact but why does it have to be boobs or private parts …some times all I ever want is a cuddle but he says that is a cuddle ..I want to be embraced held etc without it always been about sex or touching privates AIBU …. What can I do or say after 20 years it still hasn’t sunk in ….everything else is perfect

Yeah this is weird. Me and my husband cuddle every day and it’s just cuddles. I would hate to know I couldn’t do that without knowing it was going to lead else where everytime.

That is violating.

Have you told him that?

It is time to be very direct.

for me and my DH cuddling IS the main form of intimacy and we cuddle every single day, he gives me a foot massage most days and sex is sitting very distant to that. Cuddling may occasionally result in sex but often one of us will just say “I’m going upstairs, wanna come?” . We have sex maybe 8-12 times a month? But we cuddle every single morning and night. And often on the couch etc when he’s home. Skin contact is very grounding for me and I need it to feel “me” and safe in the relationship.