School needs to give detentions for missed homework!

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I'm sick of nagging my Year 7 DC to do their fucking homework! The only school consequence of them not doing it is 1 behaviour point on their points system. Its a total non-punishment as nothing happens with any of the points - even if they mount up.

Should parents be expected to motivate and punish the kids for missing homework when the school just let it go all the time? "In my day" no homework = detention. Then during detention we would do the homework + additional work. My parents never knew what homework I had or hadn't done and kept on top of me doing it?

My DC is terrified of detention - so it would absolutely be a perfect consequence and would keep me out of it!

Im just feeling guilty and totally lethargic at the end of the school year!

I agree, but I think the problem with the OP is that they think "i've tried to tell them, so that's it - nothing else I can do".

Without understanding if there is any consequence management or even incentives, it's impossible to say whether 'everything' has been tried.

You’re the parent. Supervise your child to make sure the homework is done.
“You can’t do xxxxxx until you’ve finished your homework and shown it to me” - job done.
Homework is to be done at home therefore it’s your responsibility to make sure your child does it.

It’s not a free education, it’s a state education. You might argue it is underfunded and that teachers are poorly treated, but it’s a step too far to say that parents should be grateful with whatever they get. We wouldn’t say that about the NHS. And if we started, no one would win, least of all teachers.

@Dolphinnoises I didn't mention being grateful, neither did I mention funding or the treatment of teachers as being reasons why people should recognise their good fortune in receiving it. It is free at the point of provision and everyone can have it, regardless of wealth or how much their parents have 'paid in.' That is a good thing and referring to 'the state' in a vaguely negative way is no more desirable than gratitude for equality of access to education and healthcare.

We've done incentives like no behaviour points during the week = mcdonalds breakfast on Saturday morning after their club.

We've done the homework literally sat together doing it side by side (sometimes its felt like I've basically done it all for him).

We've done no playstation/phone/TV/seeing friends until homework is complete.

I feel like it's needed so much hand holding from me to just get it done - that its not taught him any kind of skill of managing it on his own. I think part of the responsibility needs to be consequences outside of the home!

He has ADHD and ASD - I didnt want to mention that because I know some people will eyeroll - but it has meant that this isnt your garden variety child who cba with homework!

As a teacher of 20 years, I must have wasted about ten of those chasing detentions and homework. I stopped a couple of years ago. Never again. I just reward the kids who do it. Why should I waste my valuable time chasing your lazy little f***ers?! It’s called HOMEwork for a reason. 😂