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To have a face to face doctors appointment for this?

127 replies

itchyelbowsandswollenankles · 10/07/2026 09:38

I have a patch of what I think is eczema on my elbow. It turned up in the last heatwave and was a small dry patch on my elbow. It’s grown over the last three weeks and it’s now quite big, red and itchy.

I filled in the e consult for my doctors surgery and it’s given me a face to face appointment this afternoon in case it’s anything more serious. I’ve obviously had to tell my boss to book it off, and she’s said she thinks it’s ridiculous to see a GP over something so minor!

AIBU to have booked this?

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chocoluv · 10/07/2026 10:15

Middletoleft · 10/07/2026 10:03

I sent in photos originally for the same thing but then had to go in for a f2f as it got worse. The doctor took my pulse and BP but as one of the patches was weeping he took a swab to test for infection.

Having eczema is thoroughly demoralising.

Edit: the point of my post being an in person visit is worth it and might save you some time in the long run.

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I agree.

For anything like this I think f2f appointments are needed as it’s difficult to tell in photos.

Like you say, it usually saves time in the long run.

It’s literally what the GPs are there for OP, so I wouldn’t worry about it ‘not being serious enough’.

Sudocrem is great for eczema apparently btw.

itchyelbowsandswollenankles · 10/07/2026 10:15

chocoluv · 10/07/2026 10:12

I wouldn’t ring the surgery and wait for them to tell me to go to the pharmacist.

For something like that I would have popped in to the pharmacist on the way to work/lunch break and got their advice.

Then if you did still need to ring the GP and they told you to go to the pharmacist, you could say you’ve already been.

Honestly I wouldn’t worry about it now.
You’ve got an appointment and you’re not wasting anyone’s time by going.

We don’t have a pharmacy anywhere nearby or I’d have done that 😕

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ithinkilikethislittlelife · 10/07/2026 10:20

itchyelbowsandswollenankles · 10/07/2026 10:04

Honestly it just feels like it’s typical for me, I’ve lost a ton of weight in the last two years and now just as I’m more confident to uncover my arms, this happens

Same. I’ve lost stones and my legs are lovely and slim and I’ve got some bogging rash on my lower legs so I feel uncomfortable showing them off. Good luck at your gp appointment.

Favouritefruits · 10/07/2026 10:23

I mean I would have probably gone to see the pharmacist rather than a doctor personally but it’s each to their own and it’s none of your bosses business what the medical appointment for.

TY78910 · 10/07/2026 10:24

Do you suffer from eczema in general? It’s not just something you randomly get and it clears up and never returns. It could be contact dermatitis which would require a GP before it escalates, or something fungal so I’d be seeing a GP myself. IME pharmacists have always let me down - once DH had some sort of infection in his eye and they gave him the wrong drops which after going to GP in the end they said this could have ended really badly if he didn’t get the antibiotics immediately. Twice with my kids they gave the wrong ‘diagnosis’. Pharmacy first is never available because they’re too scared to prescribe. That whole system needs a change.

Now back to the crux of the actual post and not my rant, it was a daft comment from your boss but I’m assuming she’s done just that - made a clumsy comment rather than deny you medical appointment leave? In which case it’s not really that big of a deal…

eeemes · 10/07/2026 10:30

I wouldn’t have bothered a GP with this, if I’m honest. I think very minor ailments are fine to self treat or see a pharmacist as the first port of call.

Having said that, I still don’t think your boss should ask you medical information, it’s nothing to do with them unless if becomes a problem re persistent absenteeism. Next time, I would just say “I’d rather not say” if they ask.

itchyelbowsandswollenankles · 10/07/2026 10:32

eeemes · 10/07/2026 10:30

I wouldn’t have bothered a GP with this, if I’m honest. I think very minor ailments are fine to self treat or see a pharmacist as the first port of call.

Having said that, I still don’t think your boss should ask you medical information, it’s nothing to do with them unless if becomes a problem re persistent absenteeism. Next time, I would just say “I’d rather not say” if they ask.

I’ve been treating it for the last three weeks at home - lots of sudocrem, e45 and the like but nothing is helping. Like I said normally the online form will tell you if a pharmacist is the best port of call, if it had said that I would’ve seen one tomorrow but it said doctor was the better option

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backformoreofthesame · 10/07/2026 10:34

You were assessed as needing to see a doctor. End of story

is you boss a medical doctor ?

Devilsmommy · 10/07/2026 10:35

itchyelbowsandswollenankles · 10/07/2026 10:03

The only thing that makes me think it isn’t is that I’m in my late 20s and I’ve never had anything like it before, and it feels quite random to pop up now! I’m hoping I go in and get laughed at for seeing a doctor for heat rash to be honest

That's no heat rash. Completely understand why the GP wants to see you face to face. Tell your boss to do one, when she's got a medical degree then you'll take her opinion on board

itchyelbowsandswollenankles · 10/07/2026 10:36

backformoreofthesame · 10/07/2026 10:34

You were assessed as needing to see a doctor. End of story

is you boss a medical doctor ?

No, not medical. Three grown up kids though so she likes to think she can comment on stuff like that!

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Pearlstillsinging · 10/07/2026 10:37

endofthelinefinally · 10/07/2026 10:13

If the surgery gave you an appointment following your e consult then the GP must think it is necessary.
It is none of your boss's business and I don't understand why they even know why you are going. It is confidential medical information.

This

And all those pp who are saying you should see a pharmacist 1st are out of order too. Your GP thinks you need a f2f appointment, they are like gold-dust, so go to the appointment that they have given you.

notatinydancer · 10/07/2026 10:45

Unless your boss is a consultant dermatologist she should not be commenting. Also I wouldn’t have told her why I was going , just said that’s the way the appointments work.

Monty36 · 10/07/2026 10:46

I would bother a GP with it.
Your boss only needed to know that you had booked an appointment.

Go to the appointment.

Shittyyear2025 · 10/07/2026 10:49

itchyelbowsandswollenankles · 10/07/2026 10:00

I’ve not seen one, in fairness. Usually the surgery will tell you to go and see one, and I’d have had to go tomorrow morning due to work. But they asked me to come in face to face

So, pharmacy would have been absolutely the first point of contact for this. If it's more sinister you would have been redirected to the GP but pharmacists are highly trained professionals who don't just dole out Calpol...

YABVU not to have showed this to a pharmacist first.

itchyelbowsandswollenankles · 10/07/2026 10:51

Shittyyear2025 · 10/07/2026 10:49

So, pharmacy would have been absolutely the first point of contact for this. If it's more sinister you would have been redirected to the GP but pharmacists are highly trained professionals who don't just dole out Calpol...

YABVU not to have showed this to a pharmacist first.

like I said, they’re usually very good at directing to the pharmacy if needed.

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Sidge · 10/07/2026 10:53

itchyelbowsandswollenankles · 10/07/2026 09:45

The doctors don’t triage anymore! It’s all based on an AI thing, so because this falls into the category of a red spreading rash, it flags up that it could be something like meningitis

They still triage and view any photos sent in.

I doubt they suspect anything sinister, just a potential infection that needs to be seen.

Pharmacists can be great but can’t necessarily offer oral antibiotics when needed, only topical treatments for possible eczema, rashes, impetigo etc.

Womanofcustard · 10/07/2026 10:56

Looks like a bacterial/fungal rash to me.
I had one - very itchy.

chirrupybird · 10/07/2026 10:59

AI reckons contact dermatitis, shingles (unlikely since you've had it a while) or a fungal infection like ringworm. I'd see the doctor.

sunseasand25 · 10/07/2026 11:03

Decacaffeinatednow · 10/07/2026 09:59

She asked why it’s only been booked in this morning'
It's none of her fucking business!!

Yes! My first thought was that your boss sounds completely unreasonable. (And that’s the polite version)

Middletoleft · 10/07/2026 11:03

eeemes · 10/07/2026 10:30

I wouldn’t have bothered a GP with this, if I’m honest. I think very minor ailments are fine to self treat or see a pharmacist as the first port of call.

Having said that, I still don’t think your boss should ask you medical information, it’s nothing to do with them unless if becomes a problem re persistent absenteeism. Next time, I would just say “I’d rather not say” if they ask.

There's buggerall minor about eczema when someone has a flare up. It's so itchy it's dehabiliting and demoralising and can need checked to ensure there's no other infection going on.

SecretSquirrelSect · 10/07/2026 11:08

Hard to tell from the photo but has a look of ringworm to me. Could also be discoid eczema.

Either need prescription only treatments, so the gp will be the best placed to help.

Your boss is a weirdo for commenting.

dizzydizzydizzy · 10/07/2026 11:09

itchyelbowsandswollenankles · 10/07/2026 10:03

The only thing that makes me think it isn’t is that I’m in my late 20s and I’ve never had anything like it before, and it feels quite random to pop up now! I’m hoping I go in and get laughed at for seeing a doctor for heat rash to be honest

You can start psoriasis at any age.

Shittyyear2025 · 10/07/2026 11:11

itchyelbowsandswollenankles · 10/07/2026 10:51

like I said, they’re usually very good at directing to the pharmacy if needed.

But the pharmacy should have been your first point of contact - great that the GP usually would redirect you there, but the online triage is like when they send an ambulance for indigestion, pharmacy should be the go-to before GP.

You've been applying creams for 3 weeks and only now made an appointment to see the GP rather than make any time in the last 3 weeks to get it looked at.

Cantcatch · 10/07/2026 11:14

I personally think it's ridiculous but my arm has to be hanging off to go GP. Some shop bought cream would suffice

itchyelbowsandswollenankles · 10/07/2026 11:14

Shittyyear2025 · 10/07/2026 11:11

But the pharmacy should have been your first point of contact - great that the GP usually would redirect you there, but the online triage is like when they send an ambulance for indigestion, pharmacy should be the go-to before GP.

You've been applying creams for 3 weeks and only now made an appointment to see the GP rather than make any time in the last 3 weeks to get it looked at.

Because it’s worsened overnight, the first picture is last night and the second this morning.

To have a face to face doctors appointment for this?
To have a face to face doctors appointment for this?
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