My mum is 80, had an accident in the spring, went blind in one eye, recovered some sight (miracle!), and recently had an operation where they repaired the remaining damage. Phew.
While she's recovering she's staying with me, as she's lost sight in that eye again (it will come back gradually). I have said it's for 3 weeks, as she needs 10 eye drops a day (!) for the first 2 and then she has a follow-up the week after. By which point she'll have regained some sight and be down to 1 eye drop a day.
I am at the end of my tether, 10 days in. She's incredibly needy. She keeps crying if her drops are 2 minutes late, or if I go out, or if we do something that she's not invited to. We've had to postpone trips and celebrations.
She often makes out she's worse than she is, so I have no idea whether she's OK or not.
Example: I got her referred to a specialist hospital for a second opinion. All good. BUT at the appointment - to which she arrived after a torturous walk that she wobbled and huffed and puffed all the way to, clinging on to me and hospital crutches - they assessed her and said - your sight is actually pretty good, you can drive, and we've no idea why you're using sticks to walk. She then ditched the sticks, started driving, more or less within hours (!). I don't think it was intentional, I think she was shaken by the accident, but ....
Anyway, she's started dropping hints about not being able to cope if she goes home after 3 weeks. Tbf her sight won't be fully back, she won't be able to drive for another few weeks, she lives alone, she's 80....
But I just feel SO resentful, and manipulated, and knackered. I want my home back. I already had her stay for 5 weeks after the accident, where her care needs were extreme. I have to look after her dog as well as my own (permanently, apparently), I work FT, have 2 kids with disabilities, commute, am battling perimenopause, yadda yadda yadda. She never looked after me when I was a kid AND no one else in my sodding family will step up even one tiny bit. Made worse by the fact that she won't ask them herself!!!
AIBU in taking her home after the follow-up, if all is well??? She has this wonderful knack of making me feel entirely responsible for her. She has another child she could ask, after all...