AIBU for wondering if I am too laid back as a parent

[Botheredd]

I worry that I am too laid back as a parent. My children are well adjusted etc and doing extremely well at school etc. I think what triggered this is one of my 5 year olds friends is coming for tea and his mum sent me a long list of things like be careful as he runs out in the road etc, watch him in the garden. I don’t think I would ever do that, I do think about him a lot and miss him but I don’t particularly worry, I just hope he is having a good time?

Yeah I've got one of those too (albeit he's 15 now but it's developed into not telling me when he's coming home!).

Sounds like the other parent is anxious, I don't think it's about not trusting you. I know that with my son, the usual parental management techniques didn't work so I would give a list of instructions. Whether they listened or not is another matter but it made me feel better 😂

It could be that her child is just naughty for her, but hopefully not for others. But just incase she’s letting you know there’s a possibility her child may be run over.

I don’t think I’d let him go to the play date tbh if there was a chance of that. So she seems too relaxed actually.

The other parent is uptight and over-anxious. You're not.

Have you actually read some of the other responses here? My god it’s so hard to parent a ND child as it is without the judgement of others calling us uptight and over anxious.

I think we get judged regardless

This is about the other parent not about you. You carry on as you are particularly as it seems to be working well.

Some kids are more impulsive than others, especially at 6 – that's not unusual.

@Botheredd If your children wouldn't reckless things then no, you're not too laidback. If your children are impulsive and reckless then yes.

But what do you mean that you would "miss him". Surely when they are 5 years old you keep an eye on them if they are playing outside? Especially if you have invited another kid.

At 6 running into the road is pretty unusual. I would guess there are some specific concerns about the child. I don't think it's straightforward laid-back Vs uptight parent.

Recently we didn't drop DS (similar age, suspected ADHD) at a party where others were dropping off because he sometimes gets overwhelmed in noisy or chaotic environments. That's not us being uptight parents, it's the kid we have. DD would have been fine at a similar age.

She sent you a list of how to parent her child on a playdate at your house???? Is that correct?