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AIBU to resent a director criticising work he refuses to discuss or hear about?

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Chefpig · Today 19:40

Someone at director level who i work with has said he doesn't want to hear about a particular area of work and that managers, junior managers and lower grade staff need to discuss and sort themselves. This area of work can be difficult and can often mean problem solving on the spot and dealing with very complex or traumatic issues at times. We, the team who work on this regularly discuss how hard it is and sometimes have a moan too. It's better out in the open and to have conversations about it, than to take it home and let it consume you, I feel. He has never done this area of work himself.

Anyway, today the director, who works closely with us all in one way or another brought up this area of work and said how he would do it and highlighted how a member of the team handled it recently, which he thought was the wrong way. He also gave zero feedback to that person when they were dealing with it at the time, just chose to feed it back in a meeting.

Aibu to think he has no idea of how to actually do this area of work and has explicitly said he doesn't want anything to do with it or ever have done it, so has no idea why it was dealt with the way it was in a recent case?

Communication is poor at the best of times but this irked me.

OP posts:
Inprep · Today 19:49

Where do you fit in with this scenario ?

Mosaic80 · Today 19:52

Yanbu. Could you make a polite but pointed comment along the lines of “ok, well we would welcome your input on dealing with xxxxx area to improve next time…?” To highlight the fact that he actually does NOT want input into xxxxx area.

Pistachiocake · Today 19:57

Managersplaining.
Most of my managers/directors have actually been good, but I've known too many people like this. When you ask them to model the task, they usually shut up, but the downside is they sometimes make a real mess you have to spend the rest of the day sorting out. And don't say to them, "I'd explain why you're wrong, but that would be like explaining calculus to my toddler".

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