One of my best friends is a singer and I go to many of her shows, not all but many, I know she appreciates the support. Sometimes she can get me on a guest list, other times I buy a ticket which I'm always happy to do.
I've travelled further for some of the shows, but I don't tend to go if tickets are very expensive (e.g. if it's a festival) or if it's the other side of the country, but I'm happy to travel an hour or two.
She mentioned a fairly local show coming up in the next couple of weeks and I said 'Oh great, I'd love to come!".rather than seeming enthusiastic, she actually seemed a bit hesitant and was saying 'oh but there's no guestlist for this, but it may finish quite late, but I don't know what it'll be like yet' .
Rather than push anything I said 'that's ok, I'll give it a miss then.' I think she felt guilty so started saying 'no no come, once I know more I'll let you know'. I didn't know what to make but I said i was honestly ok to leave it and said we'll see what happens.
It later came out that she'd hoped for this one to be a bit more of a networking event but felt she couldn't talk to people as much with 'family and friends there'. I try to be accommodating, I don't expect her to speak to me the whole gig I'm happy to do my own thing and leave after her performance.
She was saying 'it's not that I don't want you there' and I just told her it was fine and I'd leave it. Not sure if I just misread, but I just felt like she was trying to put barriers up.
I do understand the networking thing so I said I'd leave it, I said I didn't need to go to every single gig, I think it's ok now but unsure if I was overthinking?