AIBU to expect my partner to see a doctor about sleeping so much?

[Bettybooponeggshells]

I’m fully ready to be told I’m being unreasonable here. And honestly I’m probably more annoyed with it because he does nothing to help at home or with the kids.

partner of 18 years works full time, he’s always been someone who doesn’t need a lot of sleep. Tends to wake early 5-6am even on days off.
He has always had the odd nap, which is understandable, half an hour to an hour at most. But the past couple of years he’s sleeping every evening after work and about midday both days on the weekend. For hours! 3-6 hours. I’ve suggested he should speak with a doctor but he got in a huff.
I don’t think it’s healthy.

he sleeps downstairs on the sofa for these ‘naps’ gets cross if he gets woken up by noise. I’ve said if you don’t want to get woken up go to bed.

aibu to expect him to get checked out by a doctor about this?

Yes he should

In reality you can't force someone to go to a doctor, even if it sounds as though they reasonably should. Sounds more as though the issue is that he doesn't overly care about the ways this impacts you, which is the real problem. Coupled with him being the type of partner that does nothing at home or with his own children then what is the benefit to being with him?

Absolutely any considerate person napping during the day for hours on end should take to a bedroom to do it rather than monopolise the family space. I would simply carry on around him and not give a single shit if he got in a huff. It reflects so incredibly poorly on him that he would speak to you rudely.

He just sounds selfish and incredibly unreasonable OP. A trip to the GP won't change any of the rest of it.

DH was like this - turns out he had Type 2 diabetes.

It's a warning that something is wrong - could be minor or significant but he's foolish to ignore it.

My husband was like this, turned out to be sleep apnea, not unreasonable to suggest the drs, but if mine wasn't helping out with the house or kids I'd be doing more than suggesting.

My cousin was like that. He would fall asleep within an hour of getting home from work. Turned out he had heart issues and now has a pacemaker. He was in his mid 20's when this happened and lives a perfectly normal life now. Your husband might just be lazy or avoiding his parenting/husbanding/house cleaning responsibilities, but I would definitely get it checked.