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Can I withdraw my resignation after immediately regretting leaving my job?

79 replies

itsme55 · Yesterday 19:05

I was sure about leaving my job for another and handed in my notice. As soon as I did it, I felt regret and wanted the old job back because I realised how good it was. I have asked by email if I can withdraw my resignation. I was told my my manager there is nothing I can do apart from reapplying. I've sent emails to other parts of the company including HR who have opened an appeal.

Is there anything I can do?

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Wickedlittledancer · Yesterday 19:07

Eh no, only whay they say, we can’t change their mind for them, you resigned, they now need to decide if it’s better to take you back or find someone new. The issue is you’re now a flight risk, they know you were looking elsewhere. Most companies would tell you to go. Unless you’re so integral they will struggle without you.

KilkennyCats · Yesterday 19:07

I think you’ve burnt your bridges.

You say you were sure, what changed?

Hungrycaterpillarsmummy · Yesterday 19:09

If you were the employer would you take someone back who had decided to leave?

IStillHearTheWaves · Yesterday 19:09

You can reapply for your job - you've been told what you can do already.

tilypu · Yesterday 19:09

You can ask, but if they have accepted it, it's up to them.

I suspect if they haven't agreed to withdraw, you are unlikely to be rehired. Take the new job and make the best of it.

W0tnow · Yesterday 19:09

They can accept your resignation, or not. I’m not sure you can change your mind if they’ve accepted it. Well, you can, but they don’t have to change their mind.

Wibble128 · Yesterday 19:13

Back in the day. I filed my resignation to my line manager a couple of weeks went by, the company re positioned itself and and I met my line manager with a hand written request to withdraw my resignation. It was accpeted I had at least another 12 years with them.

A671090 · Yesterday 19:14

It’s costs a lot to recruit someone - as others say it really depends on whether you are now considered a flight risk.
if you were in my team I’d like you to come and talk to me and explain everything. Depending on your experience and how far they’ve gone in replacing you - personally I would prefer to keep you (assuming you’re good at your job) but I’d want that reassurance and I’d want you to be proactive in proving your commitment! Good luck!

Sweetsalad · Yesterday 19:16

I think it's down to the manager/company. I have accepted someone changing their minds about a resignation in the past, but I certainly felt it was at my discretion whether or not I did.

They are still here 5 years later so it was a good call on both sides

Honeyhonayboo · Yesterday 19:16

I’ve known plenty of people to come asking for their job back over the years, I worked somewhere that happily took them back. I think the thought was they had seen the other side and realised they had it good after all.
However in your specific case they obviously aren’t that open to it.

Overthebow · Yesterday 19:18

There’s nothing you can do but ask. They don’t have to give your job back to you.

MyLimeGuide · Yesterday 19:19

Go and sit down with your boss and have a heart to heart - it can easily be reversed if they want to.

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · Yesterday 19:20

Most returners leave again within 12 months. Sometimes it's worth taking them back to push recruitment and training costs down the line, but sometimes not.

Give the new job a try or keep looking for something else.

anotherdaytosmile · Yesterday 19:21

According to ACAS, among others, you have no right to withdraw a resignation and it’s up to the employer to accept it. https://www.acas.org.uk/resignation/how-to-resign

How to resign - Resignation - Acas

Advice for employees on how to resign.

https://www.acas.org.uk/resignation/how-to-resign

Dexternight · Yesterday 19:21

If they liked you they would have let y9u withdraw.
As they are not they are probably happy you did resign.

MyFastZebra · Yesterday 19:21

It's up to the company. Have a chat with them.

I tried to this with one company and they said no because 'what if I do it again'.

But you can always ask

Jackiepumpkinhead · Yesterday 19:24

If they wanted you to stay, they’d let you withdraw your resignation. Best to take the new job and move on.

Pineapplewhip · Yesterday 19:26

I would assume based on the fact they arent jumping at the chance to skip a hiring process to look for another candidate - they are happy you're leaving!

Jc2001 · Yesterday 19:27

W0tnow · Yesterday 19:09

They can accept your resignation, or not. I’m not sure you can change your mind if they’ve accepted it. Well, you can, but they don’t have to change their mind.

How can they not accept your resignation? They can't force you to continue working for them.

Error404FucksNotFound · Yesterday 19:28

They've told you what you can do. You can reapply.

Tbh I would take that to mean we don't really want you to stay on.

KilkennyCats · Yesterday 19:29

MyLimeGuide · Yesterday 19:19

Go and sit down with your boss and have a heart to heart - it can easily be reversed if they want to.

They clearly don’t want to! That’s the whole point. They’ve told her to apply for the job along with everyone else; she isn’t getting it…

dancehysterical22 · Yesterday 19:31

It happened in my work (school) colleague asked to withdraw his resignation and HT said no.

Elieza · Yesterday 19:31

do you want it back?
really??
are you sure you’re not just having “wedding jitters” about your new job?
theres a reason you’d had enough of your old job. that reason still exists.

Mycatmax · Yesterday 19:32

They can reverse it if they want to but they obviously don’t want to.

dancehysterical22 · Yesterday 19:34

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · Yesterday 19:20

Most returners leave again within 12 months. Sometimes it's worth taking them back to push recruitment and training costs down the line, but sometimes not.

Give the new job a try or keep looking for something else.

Really? Where did you get the figures?