AIBU to feel guilty about my recent spending habits?

[Purplehearts45]

I feel bad for spending too money money it went on drinks a take away eBay Vinted and getting my nails done and eatting out with my neighbour I pay money towards the mortgage I want this to be about my spending not turned towards my personal living situation which is being taken care of

Depends -

YABU to feel guilty if you met all your obligations/necessities
YANBU to feel guilty if you didn't meet all your obligations/feed your kids/get into debt.

So we need more context really.

Yeah can you afford it? If so, then it's fine. If you can't, then yes yabu.

I bought a couple of phones from eBay this was after contributing to the mortgage and someone had a go at me for it

What do you need a ‘couple’ of phones for?

Are you spending more than you can afford? If so, then it’s a problem. If not, and you’re fulfilling all of your financial obligations, then it’s not an issue.
Why did you need a couple of phones?

I had the spear cash and I wanted them

Ok… so that’s the issue then? What are you feeling guilty about?

I pay money towards the mortgage I want this to be about my spending not turned towards my personal living situation which is being taken care of

YABU to start a thread about feeling guilty about your personal spending without giving any context about whether said spending is affordable after essentials, when it is obvious that the real issue is your partner's objection to you spending money on yourself, ie your personal living situation, but not wanting the thread to be about that.

‘Couple’ of phones? Are you a drug dealer?

Can you afford it without going into debt?
Will it leave you short of money in the future?
Does it take away from other future plans e.g. you were intending to save for a house deposit?
Are you expecting another person to financially support you on the basis that you don't have much disposable income, and you haven't been entirely clear with that person about how much money you have?

If the answers to those questions are yes/no/no/no then go ahead. Otherwise perhaps think about the best way to change up your spending habits.

Actually, I’m just realising - are you the poster who refuses to leave even though your husband has asked you to for the sake of your daughter?

1. who’s having a go at you about your spending?

2. do you equally contribute towards the household, eg either through working and financially contributing or by doing most of the unpaid household work?

3. do you have access to a fair share of the household income?

4. do you prioritise spending - so make sure you can cover all the necessities, including some saving where possible, before buying luxuries?

5. I can’t see why you need multiple phones, is there a reason?

Youve not provided much information so it’s impossible to know if YABU at the moment.

It is indeed, very recognisable writing style. I wouldn't expect any meaningful updates on this current "drama" if she runs true to form.

Do you have a track record of buying lots of “stuff” you don’t need? I only ask because it’s a bit odd to buy two phones for yourself.

Yes a bit of digging says it is this poster so waste of my time responding to her eh 🙄

Yep, we are back on the merry go round.

Hey! … I have 2 phones. Well technically 3. And I’m not a drug dealer.

It's all very well saying you don't want your living situation to be brought into it, but given that your partner has divorced you and repeatedly asked you to leave, it is relevant as I imagine he's pretty pissed off that you're spending money you could be using to facilitate your exit.

I’ve always thought that punctuation was a word that meant John Lydon was at St Pancras but sometimes I think it means one of those party balloon animal makers meets someone with those long false talons that chavs wear I wonder what it actually means

😬😬 are you sure? 😂