AIBU to expect my husband to say excuse me after burping?

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DH has always made a big drama out of sneezing, coughing, hiccupping and burping. Lots of noise and huffing and puffing. It really annoys me and I try not to complain, but I was brought up to say 'excuse me' or 'sorry' if I did any of those things if other people were around. Last night he started burping after dinner and I said something like 'Oh for goodness' sake' - he got really huffy with me and said 'well I have to listen to you retching'. I had no idea what he meant, but then realised that he was referring to a couple of occasions when some food has gone down the wrong way and I had to cough it up!! Retching??? No.

Is it unreasonable to expect him to try to suppress these noises or at least say 'excuse me'??

Unhelpful to you but I really wish this was the extent of my relationship problems

I voted YABU only because instead of saying "oh for goodness sake" when he burped you should have told him that the socially acceptable thing to do was to say excuse me.

Sometimes we need to explain things to other adults but it can be done in a polite and direct way. Huffing "oh for goodness sake" is almost as bad as the belching itself.

I know right! Fancy posting a mumsnet thread saying "my husband burped" 😀It's almost as bad as the thread one women started when she rang the GP surgery and the receptionist didn't hear her name so she had to repeat it 😀then came on mumsnet to tell us.

i’d just say ‘oh excuse you!’ But we don’t sweat this stuff in our own home and not i polite company. If I am around others (not immediate family in my house) I’d say ‘excuse me’

Def LTB this

Probably not unreasonable to expect him to say excuse me’ but unreasonable to expect him to suppress it. But maybe at home he doesn’t feel like he needs to as he is at home?
Harsh for him to compare his burps to you almost choking, but, did you excuse yourself afterwards? Maybe he felt you were ‘making a big drama’ out of that and you could both give a little grace and understanding when the other is making involuntarily noisy bodily functions at home?

I'm with you OP, I find it really rude and disrespectful when men (and it always is men!) belch and fart loudly. I don't care if you're at home or whatever, it's disgusting for the people around you. My sons always come home doing this after spending time with their dad and I'm trying really hard to teach them to either do it quietly or say pardon me.

Funnily enough it's never been an issue with my DD!

As long as you all know how to behave in polite company I wouldn’t let it worry you too much. If he was doing it when out in public I’d be telling him to stop!

I'm surprised at the first few responses as they don't seem to track with the usual Mumsnet attitudes!

But anyway I'd be a bit grossed out if my DH started regularly belching after meals... Obviously the odd time is just one of those things and not a big deal, but if it were every time I would ask him to leave the room.

Jeez, some of you have low standards.

You don't have to be grateful that your husband is only a rude pig who doesn't excuse himself after he burps, rather than being an adulterer or abuser.

Yeah, farting and burping and being proud of it is pretty gross.

Obviously you need to leave the bastard for that behaviour….. no idea how you manage to function after that!!

My husband also does this and I find it disgusting too.. watching this thread niw with great vested interest!

No it’s not always men who fart and belch loudly! I can fart for England, and my daughter has the loudest belch I have ever heard.