WIBU to out my mother as a liar?

[RainbowMoonbeam]

So... had a bit of a rocky relationship with DM throughout the last 10 years. Resulted in me going NC about 4 years ago. Last year there was death in the family and DB called to tell me, due to NC.
I attended funeral, DM approached me, I was polite and we've remained in contact, but not close since. We had been getting closer but I'm now unsure.
During time we were NC she got married, I found out from my adult DS the day before, he wasn't going to mention it "because of everything", I assumed "everything" was us being NC.
Nope, I've recently learned she told everyone she'd invited me, and played the "it's such a shame she won't make peace and come" card to anyone that would listen.
I'm so annoyed, but at the same time, don't know if I'm willing to put up with the dramatics that would be unleashed if I proactively corrected her version of events with everyone. Would I be unreasonable to stir it all up, or should I let it rest and just accept being cast as the evil stubborn daughter?

I understand the desire to set the record straight. None of us likes being called a liar. The easiest path is probably to just let it go though. Anyone who knows you and is worth it will know the truth. Those that you don't have contact with or don't know well enough to know the truth anyway, they don't matter. Kind of explains your relationship with her TBH.

Honestly i think id let it go. She was probably just embarrassed and didnt want to be judged for you being nc at the time. Since you've recently reconnected i think.id just start fresh.

I think you have to ask yourself what do you have to gain if you did set people straight.

Im going against the grain here a little but I would sit and have the conversation with her to let her know you know and to ask why she did that.
Not purposely going around setting others straight if you arent planning on going back to NC but... if anyone ever made a comment to say its a shame you didn't go, I'd probably say I didnt know about it.

You were NC for a reason, maybe you need to remember why.

She sounds like a narcissistic parent, I went NC with my mother so many times and backed down so many times but never ever again. I’ve found my peace and won’t let her ruin it

Even if you call her out she will never admit it and you will be called out for dredging up the past, not letting things go, making life harder than it needs to be and so on. I know the need to call out a lying parent is strong but sometimes it’s just not worth it.

I think if anyone directly spoke to me about it/ asked me about it, I would tell them the truth but I probably wouldn’t go out of my way to correct it.

I totally get your feeling of rage about the injustice of the lie, but going out of your way to explain that to people will not help you.

If anyone asked or discussed it with me then I would tell them that actually I wasn't invited in the first place. Otherwise I would ignore her.