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AIBU to raise concerns about an Airbnb after kind hosts helped us?

112 replies

Bunnyfuller1 · 04/07/2026 17:06

So..we booked an AirBnB near Nimes. Our wonderful Ryanair flight was delayed 2 hours, which was then a domino effect to getting out of the airport to where we were collecting our car. The hire place closed 5 minutes before we got there, despite me pleading with them and updating them all the time.

i had been in contact with the AirBnB owner since before the holiday and he had asked me to keep him updates to our arrival time. When I had updated him with our situation he immediately offered to collect us from the railway station, and offered us dinner. An absolute gem, we are so grateful. We sorted our car out the next day, so all good there.

The problem is the AirBnB itself - it’s a small gite attached to the owner’s house. The grounds are very neglected with stuff everywhere. The advertised aircon is actually one portable air conditioner with a pipe taped to the door to vent. The owner has given us a couple of fans which make it possible to sleep Everything is very tired r unfinished or needs repairing. Bedside tables are plastic chairs.

Theres a pool which is very cloudy, and again everything around it is unkempt. The cherries on the cake are their 2 labradors which they mostly keep control of, but they take into the pool twice a day.

We are really torn - owners are so welcoming and nice (a bit too chatty sometimes) but we’ve never stayed in an Airbnb like this before and as much as I like dogs, I’m not overly keen on swimming in water that two huge labs go in.

What to do - if the hosts were any different we would immediately speak to them and Airbnb and hopefully get moved to something better, but (I know, grow a pair) I’m really feeling bad and ungrateful over speaking to them. DH is fully for raising our issues, it’s me feeling awful.

what to do, dear MN, and if we were to raise it, how….

OP posts:
Overtheatlantic · 04/07/2026 17:09

I would probably just send them a private message about your concerns then in your review mention that it’s rustic and the hosts are wonderfully accommodating?

NowWotsit · 04/07/2026 17:10

Suck it up. You didn’t do your due diligence, just as you didn’t do a good job leaving enough time for car

PrettyLittleRose · 04/07/2026 17:12

Overtheatlantic · 04/07/2026 17:09

I would probably just send them a private message about your concerns then in your review mention that it’s rustic and the hosts are wonderfully accommodating?

This is an excellent plan.. ^

dancingdeidre · 04/07/2026 17:13

I would leave a 5 star review praising everything you can with a hint that the gite is small and'lived in'. They were incredibly kind to you .

Menohaze · 04/07/2026 17:15

Can you not just say, brilliant hosts, went above and beyond, very attentive and present - had fun in the pool with the dogs, portable air con and fans helped with the heat, basic accommodation but a lovely location... something like that to include the issues for people looking but not neg them?

WonderingWanda · 04/07/2026 17:22

Well is there even something better that they can move you in to? If not then just go out and enjoy your days and leave a review that says something like 'Delightful hosts who could not have been more helpful. Rustic gite, could do with some modernising'

Bunnyfuller1 · 04/07/2026 17:24

NowWotsit · 04/07/2026 17:10

Suck it up. You didn’t do your due diligence, just as you didn’t do a good job leaving enough time for car

We had left 4 hours for getting the car…the plan was actually 2.5 hours taking off for a 2 hour flight, the bus from the airport was 20 mins late, our train was 20 mins late. The rules for the hire were collect car within an hour of your booking, so I felt having left 4 hours we would be good! The place actually wasn’t answering the phone for 45 mins our arrival time, even though we had communicated the flight issues whilst still in the UK.

Due diligence - over reading the description, Google earthing the village, reading the reviews, what other due diligence would you suggest for an AirBnB - lots of good reviews and nothing in the description to indicate anything was other than the usual AirBnB…

Everyone else, thank you. Super helpful answers and I will do a carefully worded review as suggested.

thank you.

OP posts:
BudgetBuster · 04/07/2026 17:27

Were there no pictures on the Air BnB listing?

helpinghand100 · 04/07/2026 17:28

Was it cheap?

Bunnyfuller1 · 04/07/2026 17:31

BudgetBuster · 04/07/2026 17:27

Were there no pictures on the Air BnB listing?

Plenty, but none of them showed the broken cupboard door, or the bottom of the shower where there’s a big crack between it and the wall, or the fact that aircon was this ancient unit, or dogs in the pool, no. It looked a little dark, but we were fine with that. I don’t think they would get any bookings if they showed the real set up!

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MrsPapillon · 04/07/2026 17:31

I think it’s normal for France. I have stayed in a lot of ramshackle rustic accommodation. I tend to look for gites with British owners now as they’re often more modern and to a higher standard.

Bunnyfuller1 · 04/07/2026 17:33

helpinghand100 · 04/07/2026 17:28

Was it cheap?

Average for what we were looking at. This is our first time doing AirBnB in France, always previously been Greece or in the UK. It may be in France you need to pay more to get…ok?!

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LoafofSellotape · 04/07/2026 17:34

"We especially loved swimming in the pool with the owners dogs"

That should do it!

Error404FucksNotFound · 04/07/2026 17:36

A cosy, rustic, well loved little place with so many original features and blessed with super friendly hosts and their gorgeous, adorable, very active dogs who love to swim in the pool a couple of times a day.
Especially appreciated the effort the hosts went to to try to cool down the place with their little portable air con and fans.

Ladybyrd · 04/07/2026 17:37

Menohaze · 04/07/2026 17:15

Can you not just say, brilliant hosts, went above and beyond, very attentive and present - had fun in the pool with the dogs, portable air con and fans helped with the heat, basic accommodation but a lovely location... something like that to include the issues for people looking but not neg them?

I think that’s fair. I take it these issues didn’t appear in the photos - particularly the labradors in the pool! I mean, come on. They may be friendly, but what kind of host does that.

Darragon · 04/07/2026 17:37

This is yet another Air BNB thread where people need to remember reviews aren’t mandatory. Just say nothing. It’s not your civic duty. They’re clearly good people on the bones of their arse and trying their best to change that. Getting them less bookings will mean less money for them to fix the place up.

Positivepositron · 04/07/2026 17:38

Was it advertised as having a pool?
And I think the price matters a lot here. If it was very cheap then you have to assume it's going to be unkempt and not state of the art.

DidntLikeTheEnding · 04/07/2026 17:38

I would have to move because of the dogs in the pool, and I wouldn't care if the owners were offended by that. They can't seriously think that's acceptable in accommodation they're renting to guests?!

Bunnyfuller1 · 04/07/2026 17:39

Ladybyrd · 04/07/2026 17:37

I think that’s fair. I take it these issues didn’t appear in the photos - particularly the labradors in the pool! I mean, come on. They may be friendly, but what kind of host does that.

That’s my thought! I love dogs, and possibly if I were lucky enough to have one, I would possibly get my greasy little pug to have a swim in the summer! But not if it were part of a professional business for clients to use!

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Bunnyfuller1 · 04/07/2026 17:42

Darragon · 04/07/2026 17:37

This is yet another Air BNB thread where people need to remember reviews aren’t mandatory. Just say nothing. It’s not your civic duty. They’re clearly good people on the bones of their arse and trying their best to change that. Getting them less bookings will mean less money for them to fix the place up.

They’re actually not. Both academics, still involved in business and the main home has been completely renovated and has amazing aircon (owner took DH in to collect fans). Theres mess everywhere which the lady apologised for, but the main home is in much better nick.

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LoafofSellotape · 04/07/2026 17:42

Darragon · 04/07/2026 17:37

This is yet another Air BNB thread where people need to remember reviews aren’t mandatory. Just say nothing. It’s not your civic duty. They’re clearly good people on the bones of their arse and trying their best to change that. Getting them less bookings will mean less money for them to fix the place up.

I've been in far too many Airbnb's to know that any awful lot just can't be arsed to replace broken things and upgrade when needed.

LBFseBrom · 04/07/2026 17:48

I get how you feel but as long as no harm has been done, I'd leave it. Presumably the pool was chlorinated.

PrettyLittleRose · 04/07/2026 17:48

Well every day is a school day, I thought the OP has mispelt GATE, and then other posters were doing so too. So I googled Gite, and it turns out ...

A gîte (pronounced zheet) is a furnished holiday home, cottage, or self-catering accommodation, primarily located in the rural or semi-rural regions of France.

I know you posh twats probably knew this, but I'm just a working class philistine! 😆

Edited because I can't even spell 'misspelt' correctly! 😂 The irony!

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LightlyRoamingOcelots · 04/07/2026 17:48

Some friends of ours run an Airbnb as their home has a section that can easily be a private area. We were having a conversation about ratings because I commented that I heard Airbnb properties get delisted if their ratings score falls below a certain level and that makes the ratings useless because everything listed is 5.0 or 4.9 or 4.8 so there's hardly anything to choose. They explained that you aren't supposed to be rating it like a hotel where something really posh and splendid is 5 star but something more basic but functional is 3 star. It's supposed to be how well it meets the advertised description, was everything that was advertised present, did the owners go above and beyond, but a cheap and basic AirBnb that is a lot less luxurious than you might like can still be 5 star if it was correctly advertised. So I couldn't say whether yabu without reading the listing but any of the things you mention could be unreasonable to criticise in your review if they aren't in conflict with the listing.

IglesiasPiggl · 04/07/2026 17:53

I have 3 review modes :
Really great and loved it - leave great review
Awful, misleading or unsafe - leave bad review
OK, didn't like that much or not my bag - don't bother with review

Just don't leave a review. They were nice people. If they had been rude then I would have left the bad review.

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