AIBU frustrated by DH and half-finished jobs?

[Jcbsong]

I am often starting jobs - tidying up, putting laundry away etc - but I always get interrupted by the DCs and it’s left half finished. DH has a habit of coming along later and trying to help except he undoes what I’ve done or changes it so it’s his way. An example I was tidying and had a pile of bits of vinted but then DH took over and put them all away.

Why does this annoy me so much? Is it because when DH has a job he can just go and do it unhindered? If he wants to mow the lawn etc he just goes and gets it finished. It makes me feel incapable. When I’ve raised it with him he says he can’t win. What I real need him to do is watch the DCs so I can get things done but when I suggest this it’s the ‘I can’t win’ argument.

What a terrible husband.

Sounds like you need to work on your communication.

When the DC interrupt you can’t you send them to DH or do you tell DH when you are off to do a job do you tell him so he knows you’re busy doing something? If you get half way through something, do you say ‘I’ve not finished this but I’m going to go back do it later’?

I think YAB a bit U tbh. It sounds like you feel annoyed/incapable but you are deflecting blame to DH or are annoyed that he doesn’t tidy up etc. the way you like.

At least he tries. And actually notices things that might need sorted.

Well don't 'suggest' it.

Just tell him you're busy and he'll have to take over with the kids.

I had 2 lovely bags of stuff for the charity shop and DH put it all away cause it was cluttering up the spare room! I’ve made sure to tell him this time what they are.
Can you redirect the children to go as daddy if they need adult input so you can carry on? Or if you’re off to put washing away say to DH I’m going to put washing away tag you’re it with the kids?!

Someone leaving jobs half finished in my house would do my head in.