Would you be upset if your partner cancelled after a row?

[TheOpalFox]

Would you be really upset if you have a row with your partner . Uou don’t live together, but he was meant to be coming over. ? But because we rowed he’s not coming ? My anxiety is bad but it’s proper upset me he’s not coming :( I wanted to talk to him :(

I wouldn’t necessarily want to hang out with someone I was arguing with tbh.

Well if you've had an argument he might not want to see you and that's ok

It might just be for a day or two to process, hope it gets sorted op

Perhaps he needs some space. That's OK.

I would want space after an argument.

You've had an argument and even if you want to talk to him, he's entitled to not want to talk to you. Not seeing each other for a couple of days will give it time for the disagreement to fade, seeing him while he's still annoyed with you will make it worse.

How old are you OP? You sound quite emotionally immature to be honest. I suggest you give him some space.

Having had this and cried and begged for the man to come over as promised as I had a child free night especially for him I then realised a few years after the break up that he was a manipulative fucker and this was his control tactic and what I would do now if I had the time over again is say ok you enjoy your night, and go out yourself and enjoy your night with friends instead. Let him have his space but you take yours too.

How serious an argument was it? A bit of time is one thing, but I’d have limited patience for sulking

It might upset me but I would be being unreasonable too! Sometimes people need space after a row.

No I’d expect them to cancel

Why

Did you resolve the argument? If not, I wonder if he’s expecting the row to continue if he comes over. Maybe he thinks you both need a bit of time to cool down and reflect?

Because you had a row. People need space.

Depends on what the row was about, something serious or trivial.

I would have did ehat he did if somone begged me, it is not an grown up way to act

Because space is maybe better than coming over and argument escalating. Grow up

Oh the first time he did it was just to show me how much control he had. The second time was the time I did the begging but it was to go to my graduation as a mature adult and of course now I know he didnt come here because it was not all about him but I really wanted him with me to celebrate. He did this many times to exert his control over the years using silence as punishment and each time he went silent it turned out he was sleeping with other people so while I lost a little of myself the one time I begged him to reconsider it became a pattern of his and I dumped him in the end. He, it turns out, has done this to every woman before me and since just to see how much hold he has over people.

People are being a bit mean on here??
Op does he have a pattern of behaviour like this, punishing you for speaking up about your feelings? Do you walk on eggshells around him to not upset him?
If everything else is fine and you feel secure with him then I would say give him space, but if he regularly makes you feel anxious and if he messes you about a lot you need to rethink the relationship.

i think it’s fine to want space after an argument. Gives both parties time to reflect.