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AIBU to be angry about primary school iPads without parent consultation?

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Doormouse79 · 03/07/2026 12:29

AIBU to be furious that our primary school trust pushed through iPads for Year 3/4 without engaging with parents?

Posting because I’m honestly so frustrated and I’d really appreciate some advice from other parents.
My child is at a Surrey school within Xavier Catholic Education Trust. The Trust has rolled out a 1:1 iPad scheme for Year 3 and Year 4 children: so we’re talking about 7, 8 and 9-year-olds, not teenagers.
The issue isn’t that I’m anti-technology. I’m really not. I understand schools use iPads and apps now. But this feels like a huge change to the way young children are being taught, and it seems to have been pushed through before parents were properly asked, informed or listened to. The Trust seems heavily involved with a Hong Kong-based/ international venture-capital backed company who appear to be developing their products based on our children's data. That's not necessarily suspect or wrong, but shouldn't we be entitled to explanations? Surely this cannot be right?
A large group of parents (around 40 across the three year groups) raised concerns. These weren’t just people moaning about screen time. Parents asked reasonable questions like:

  1. Are iPads really needed every day for children this young?
  2. What is the educational benefit?
  3. How much screen time are they actually getting?
  4. What happens to the children’s work and information once it’s uploaded?
  5. Where is the children's data going and being stored in the world?
  6. Who can see what they’re doing?
  7. What checks were done before this was introduced?
  8. Can parents opt out or have an alternative? (We have been told NO).

Instead of being properly engaged with, parents feel we’ve been fobbed off.
Requests for a proper meeting were declined. We’ve had generic reassurances and glossy-sounding explanations, but not clear answers to the actual questions being asked.
One of the things that really bothers me is that, as far as we’ve been told, there wasn’t a proper written risk assessment (a "Data Protection Impact Assessment") done before this was rolled out. Given this involves young children using iPads, school apps, online platforms, stored schoolwork and teacher monitoring, I find that hard to understand.
There is also apparently a system where teachers can monitor what pupils are doing on the iPads in real time. I’m not saying teachers shouldn’t supervise children — of course they should. But surely parents are entitled to know exactly how this works, what the limits are, and what safeguards are in place?
Another thing that feels uncomfortable is that staff from the Trust seem to have been involved in presenting alongside Goodnotes / EdTech projects connected with the sort of technology now being used in classrooms. Maybe that’s all perfectly above board, but if the Trust is that closely involved with promoting this kind of thing, shouldn’t they be extra careful to show parents that they’ve properly and independently checked whether it’s right for our children?
What’s also maddening is that this scheme was apparently still “in development” when introduced, and there didn’t seem to be solid evidence yet that it actually improves learning for children this young. Yet it has still been pushed ahead and expanded.
Parents haven’t been offered any meaningful alternative either. So in practice, it feels compulsory. You either go along with it or your child risks being the odd one out.
The tone from the Trust has really upset people too. Rather than treating parents as people with legitimate concerns about their children, the response has felt defensive and dismissive, almost as though we are being awkward for asking basic questions.
I just don’t think this is good enough.
This is about young children. It’s about how they learn, how much time they spend on screens, what happens to their schoolwork and personal information, and whether parents are being respected.
AIBU to think a school trust should not be rolling out something this significant without proper consultation, clear answers and proper checks first?
Has anyone else challenged an academy trust over something like this? Where would you go next — governors, the Trust board, the Diocese, ICO, Ofsted, MP?
I don’t want to be labelled “that parent”, but I also don’t think parents should be expected to just shut up and trust the system when the system won’t answer straightforward questions.
Would you escalate this formally? And where would you start?

OP posts:
TickyTacky · 04/07/2026 12:00

Completely not being unreasonable. My children are in secondary school (junior school) and the only tech they use is desktop computers - which they only use in Computing & Study Hall. There's absolutely no need for small children to be using ipads in school.

RoseOliviaAu · 04/07/2026 12:12

Soontobe60 · 03/07/2026 19:51

😂😂😂

What do you think they’re doing with them?

Playing learning games that are the entryway into tech addiction, crap attention spans, increased dopamine and reward seeking and strained eyes.

RoseOliviaAu · 04/07/2026 12:15

ThatJadeLion · 04/07/2026 07:31

People are obsessed with hating technology. I find it odd. Embracing technology will help prepare children for a digitally driven workforce. My own career being self employed now heavily uses AI. I'm mid 40s.and if I didn't embrace it, I would risk being unemployed in what I do.

I'm sure it will be in moderation and children will still be using a wide range of skills.that don't involve tablets.

Edited

You are an adult. You have embraced tech as an adult with a developed brain… they are small children. Tech is shown to affect the brain, eyes, reward systems etc.

LlynTegid · 04/07/2026 12:15

I think you should formally complain, use the complaints procedure. If you as it seems have strong reasons to believe that data protection is not being taken seriously, then report to the Information Commissioner.

ThatJadeLion · 04/07/2026 12:21

RoseOliviaAu · 04/07/2026 12:15

You are an adult. You have embraced tech as an adult with a developed brain… they are small children. Tech is shown to affect the brain, eyes, reward systems etc.

People were saying that in the 80s to kids that apparently watched too much TV. I had an aunt constantly reminding I would get square eyes. We all turned out ok. Every time there is a period of technological invention people treat it with suspicion and caution and often contempt. Even calculators when they were allowed in the classroom. Moderation is obviously the key to most things like screens.

Etherealcelestialbeing · 04/07/2026 15:29

There is a documented link between actual physical handwriting with a pen/pencil and better retention and understanding of learning for young children. The same task completed on a laptop or tablet will not develop skills and memory in the same way.

Occasional use for research/maths games etc - fine.
Ongoing daily use as a replacement for actual face to face talk or writing in books - detrimental to children’s outcomes.

The Neuroscience Behind Writing: Handwriting vs. Typing—Who Wins the Battle?

Mumtryingtolivethedream · 04/07/2026 19:43

RoseOliviaAu · 04/07/2026 12:15

You are an adult. You have embraced tech as an adult with a developed brain… they are small children. Tech is shown to affect the brain, eyes, reward systems etc.

I agree it will just create a generation of adults that cant think for themselves, cant write and have no sustained attention span

WarriorN · 05/07/2026 12:36

Etherealcelestialbeing · 04/07/2026 15:29

There is a documented link between actual physical handwriting with a pen/pencil and better retention and understanding of learning for young children. The same task completed on a laptop or tablet will not develop skills and memory in the same way.

Occasional use for research/maths games etc - fine.
Ongoing daily use as a replacement for actual face to face talk or writing in books - detrimental to children’s outcomes.

The Neuroscience Behind Writing: Handwriting vs. Typing—Who Wins the Battle?

That’s interesting- I have noticed this in myself but thought it to be just me.

Minasama · 06/07/2026 09:07

I am with you OP.
I would visit some other schools to see if there’s another locally I feel more comfortable with.
I feel you lose your child as soon as they have their own screen, if I had my time again I’d enforce far stricter limits at a younger age.

SerendipityJane · 06/07/2026 09:55

Xnz2022 · 03/07/2026 12:46

Have a Google search for academic research in this area.. there has been some pretty shocking data from america showing a direct correlation (note - not causation, which would be impossible to prove) between the level of technology in the classroom and educational outcomes.

It's pretty linear and clear. More tech = lower outcomes on average. Not improved.

Just a microcosm of the real world where they throw "AI" at everything and see costs rise and productivity plummet.

I mean if education is to prepare our children for the future world, sounds like they have it spot on.

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