A couple of months ago, my ex got back in touch by email after a year of no contact. He hasn't seen the children in three years. The email was long and very apologetic. He said he was sorry for the way he'd treated both me and the kids, and that he'd like to rebuild contact again if they wanted to see him.
I replied because it clearly seemed to have taken a lot for him to send the email, even though several people advised me to just block him. We exchanged a few messages, but I noticed he didn't really ask much about the children.
Now it's been three weeks and I've heard nothing at all. No messages asking how they are, no checking in, nothing.
Am I wrong in thinking that if he was genuinely serious about rebuilding a relationship, there would have been more consistency? One of the biggest issues in the past was that he was incredibly inconsistent. He'd go months without seeing or contacting the kids and never seemed to understand why that was upsetting for them.
To me, three weeks of silence after such a big email feels like history repeating itself, but I'm wondering if I'm looking at it too negatively. What would you think? I’m not expecting daily or constant contact but I think at least a weekly check in to show he is serious.