AIBU to ask to delay my new job training by a week?

[heythere21]

I have training for a new job starting on Monday. I'm relocating to the place of work where the training takes place, then the rest of the family are moving a few weeks after. I still have things to sort out here and it would be better if I could move the training start date back a week. Can I do that or will the company say they don't want me anymore and find someone else. Also, because I'll be on probation, will it go against me. Thanks

I would stick to the arranged training date. We are now only one working date away and they may have bought a trainer in, arranged a venue, organised presentation packs and a miriad of other things for the sessions and will be rather annoyed if you try to rearrange

I wouldn't ask for the training to be put back a week.

I don't think that it's a good first impression at all. And to make the request at such late notice is really unprofessional.

Monday as in the next working day after today? No you can't ask to change it now. It's way too late.

I mean you can ask, but expect them to be unimpressed.

Terrible first impression if you ask for a delay.

Had a similar situation witha new starter, you can't underestimate the amount of prep that goes into it. Plus reorganising timetables and availability at such short notice. I reluctantly allowed it but it was a mistake as they turned out to be generally flakey beyond that, didn't last 2 months.

No, it's unacceptable to tell them on a Friday that you no longer wish to do the training on Monday. It will be massively inconvenient/impossible for them to rearrange and frankly I'd be regretting hiring someone who thinks doing this is remotely reasonable.

The fact you are wondering about asking would make me think you are going to be an unreliable employee

I've always been a reliable employee, just rubbish at making life-changing decisions. Moving is difficult at the best of times.

That would really mark your card if you even asked at my work. It’s will have taken weeks to get everything sorted and mostly likely you are doing the training with other people so we couldn’t move it. Though you will normally have had 2 months between contract and start date so you would have had time to plan accordingly. Maybe it’s different if you accepted on Monday this week.

@heythere21 , I imagine you accepted the job more than a few days ago, more likely weeks, and yet you've still got "things to sort out" at home. That's just tough. Presumably you want the job? If you asked me this, I would be doubting the wisdom of offering you the position and possibly viewing you in a new (worrying) light, which really isn't how you want to start a new job. And don't be thinking along the lines of "it doesn't hurt to ask, they can only say no"; in this instance it really would hurt because it would be a bad first impression to make.
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