Year 6 teacher discussing dating life

[SarahBcn]

Can I get your opinion on this! Daughter is in Y6 and has told me that her teacher regularly tells her about the dating websites she’s on and dates she goes on. I think this is inappropriate for y6? She also used my daughter as an imaginary person in a PSHE role play about posting photos online saying they were of her ‘smoking and kissing boys’. Daughter got upset as other kids in the class kept laughing at her and saying -who’ve you been kissing? etc’. Think the teacher is of the banter sense of humour obviously and daughter doesnt get it, but still think this is not professional behaviour!

Have you asked the teacher about this?

Maybe find someone willing to go on these websites and try and match with her profile. Get them to go on a couple of dates together and when things are going well get them to talk to the teacher about what is appropriate to discuss with children. The danger is they might end up falling in love and getting married but at least that would stop the stories of OLD.

Good luck

No @plims - daughter only just told me

Does she discuss dating with just your daughter or the whole class? Either way it's inappropriate and unprofessional but you do get that brand of young teacher who want to be friends with their pupils and get a kick out of their supposed "adoration".
One of my children had a secondary school teacher who used to pull up shopping websites in class and ask the pupil's opinions of what she should buy! I only found this out when she was no longer their teacher and they were joking about it - had I known earlier I would have had to say something because she this was a GCSE teacher!

I would gently probe to find out if this was a one off or is a regular thing and if you or your daughter feel uncomfortable about it then I would have a quiet word with the Head. Obviously your daughter is leaving that school soon but I think it's something a Head would want to know about because it's just so unprofessional.

This is well over the top -WTF!? Just raise it with the Teacher, OP.

‘Hi, DD has come home saying something about some role playing involving kissing boys, I don’t really understand what she means, haha! I was wondering, can you shine a light?’

I'm a teacher, and would usually be the first to defend teachers, but this is completely inappropriate. I would email your school office and ask for an appointment to speak to your head teacher. You don't have to be confrontational but I would just tell him/her exactly what you've posted here.

The PSHE situation also sounds a bit odd, I don't understand why the teacher couldn't just use an imaginary person in her example?

Yes, that’s inappropriate.

The lesson should have used a fictional person not an individual in the class - it was obvious that whoever was used as an example would get “banter” about it. By itself I’d probably let that go.

It’s nice when primary teachers share a little bit about their lives - bring in a photo of their new pet dog, tell the class about their new grandchild or whatever. A detailed account of their dating life (and basically telling the kids how to find them on dating sites?!) is very unwise and inappropriate. I’d be bringing it up with the headteacher.

Ok I’m glad you thought this too, am also a teacher, of younger kids, but I still think this is weird even for secondary aged children. Not sure whether to email her or head. I know I’d be mortified if my head had a word with me about that

My DDs GCSE teacher has told the class all about the Ozempic they are on and how much weight they’ve lost so far! 🤔

Some teachers are blabber mouths and like an audience!

🙄 Ugh, whatever happened to maintaining a "professional distance?

I hope that this is a joke. What a bizarre and hugely inappropriate suggestion!

I think that is fair enough given that children have eyes and can see rapid weight loss. Better to normalise this as something positive done for health reasons than leaving it to the school rumour mill. It's not the same as oversharing about your dating behaviour.

I think it's not the year 6 that is the issue, I'd feel the same with a teacher of older children.

A discreet word with the teacher seems appropriate.

I hear your point and yes it is for health reasons but I’m not sure sharing with 15 yo that you inject drugs weekly is ideal. Also, there may be some children struggling with body image and this instills that ‘fat’ is not okay. Which, in large amounts, it isn’t ofcourse but 15 year old’s, especially those with ED, don’t need to hear this.

WTH??

‘Bring your whole self to work’ is inappropriate in the context of a classroom. The most I ever found out about my teachers was possibly if they were married or were a parent. There was no more detail than that, which I think is as it should be.

As for the Ozempic example- the teacher doesn’t need to tell the students about it. Yes, they have eyes and might ask about or comment on the weight loss, but the teacher can simply say ‘Yes, I have lost weight, it’s better for my health. Now let’s get back to maths…’

Yes, absolutely! Teachers are there to teach their subjects, not regale pupils with details of their personal lives.
So what if pupils notice she has lost weight, that's her business and she should keep it that way.
Too much matey over sharing going on if you ask me. Keep a professional distance.
And I think discussing weight and losing weight etc is iffy with teenagers anyway.