Footy causing relationship issue

[Trickyddboom]

Aibu to think my dp is being a selfish person ? We are renovating and have 4.5 weeks for our wedding. The renovation has gone over timescale and I had hoped it would all be done and dusted by end of June . Tuesday night, I had a panic attack and was thinking of postponing wedding, due to the amount of work still needing doing and I wanted July to be a relaxing and enjoyable lead up to the wedding. Instead, we are still in chaos. He reassured me by saying we will do some work together in the evenings to speed things up. However, he came home last night after work, complained because I didn’t have a smile on my face to welcome him home and proceeded to get a can and put the footy on. So I reminded him about last nights statement and he replied “yeah but we don’t need to rush anything now do we because you did a lot here today”. He doesn’t have a tough long day job and he is 57, but I can’t help feeling he is so lazy! More to the point, why are they showing football at premium times of the evening? Surely at 5pm people want to have tea together or do some chores before settling for the evening??? First time posting here btw

Give FIFA a ring and tell them to change the kick off times because you’ve a bedroom to plaster and two doors to fit before your wedding. I’m sure they’ll understand. 🙄

I must admit I'm amused by someone expecting World Cup matches taking place in the USA Canada and Mexico to be scheduled to fit in with British family tea and chores.

I was talking about the idea of getting the house ready before the wedding. I was replying to the post that was suggesting she should relax about it.

Thank you for your reply. I’m new here so unsure how to participate but I made a mistake in the original post. He does have a physical job. Albeit, no, he doesn’t help on other nights. Seems footy was an excuse.

Yes, some people do want to have tea and do chores. I'd love that. Stick a podcast on and crack on. Most men really aren't that great company and tbh they aren't that great at DIY (you only find that out by doing it yourself and realising just how half arsed a job some of them do and rely on us not knowing better than to be impressed because girls are scared of tools and DIY.

If he's always useless, maybe don't marry this one? I'm only being half flippant. What does he bring to the relationship if he isn't even trying in the lead up to achieve allegedly-shared goals?

Amd why can't you take a night off and have a bath or go out or do something fun alone?

Apologies

Yes a very overused expression but your posting style does make me think you are being needy

The world cup is a world game not just for England

@Trickyddboom are you getting married in the house? If not, then don’t worry about it. If you are, then I can understand your frustration but still the England game was on, no one was going to miss that for house work! It finished early enough though, you both could have started then.

I know. Hilarious!

We totally set our clocks weird to mess with you guys.

😜

Renos always go over schedule and budget. Doing that along with your wedding was kind of bad planning. Fuss away, it won't make one bit of difference. Let the guy enjoy his football.

Op I don’t think it is unreasonable for your partner to want to watch the England game live when he’s finished work. It only happens once every 4 years, unless your Scottish like me and it’s once every 28 years.
The World Cup is a huge sporting event

To be honest FIFA have been really rude. They should have checked with you. Then you could give them a kick-off time that won’t affect your teatime schedule.

(Has anyone told OP that the next England game is at 1am Monday morning?) 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

It sounds like the issue isn't the football, its that he's not helping other nights either - is he usually like this?

Stop panicking. The renovations will be finished soon, panicking isn’t going to speed it. You’ve 4 weeks to your wedding, I assume most things are organised, enjoy the build up otherwise the day is over in an instant and often ruined by unnecessary stress. Let him enjoy the football, you take some time to relax. Weddings are supposed to be about the marriage, starting it stressful but ranting isn’t a good idea. Chill.
I have heard many women say they wish they could do it all again without being flustered as the day was unnerving and rushed, not joyful.

I’m still getting over 1978.

YABU. It’s the World Cup. I have watched every game I can except the ones on the middle of the night. Football in important to me but thankfully DH understands and does other things while it’s on.

You getting married in your house? Cant see any connection to footy

Poor planning on your part to try and do a renovation and a wedding at the same time. Let the man enjoy 90 minutes of football.

What jobs need finishing in the renovation? And why does it matter that it is all done before the wedding? Why would you cancel a wedding that you have no doubt out time effort and money into for the sake of a wedding.
maybe change your perception and expectations on the house and relax a bit. The football was on and he took a night of. It’s not worth falling g out over surely…

(Has anyone told OP that the next England game is at 1am Monday morning?) 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Well, her partner absolutely will not be watching it because that's the exact time that he's scheduled to lay the new flooring.
I hope he's told FIFA in advance so they can cancel the game and get the England squad round to do a bit of DIY and help the guy out.

Me too. We don’t eat until about 7 though, could they hang on a bit longer please !

(potentially) Good news! FIFA listened to OP and the next England game has been moved to 7pm UK time.

I could't give two hoots about football, but I do understand:
a) other people are quite keen on it, and
b) time zones are a thing

I was hoping but unfortunately they've decided to leave it at the original time and will just postpone if the weather is too bad.