To think she has an unhealthy relationship with alcohol?

[Mrsm010918]

My mum passed away 2.5 years ago and this year my dad has moved on and is seriously seeing a woman. I've met her twice now and she seems nice. We talked about kids and had a few laughs at things my dad does mainly.

I have 1 thing that worries me though - she seems to have a habit of binge drinking to a fault whereas my dad never used to really drink. He'd have a few here and there but he drives for a living so it was obviously limited.

Some examples -

1. She tripped off her back door step while drunk and had to go to a and e for stitches in her head

1. She invited my dad over but was so drunk after a work do that he spent the night holding her hair back while she was crouched over a toilet bowl.

1. She had to have a few drinks for Dutch courage to get on a plane to Benidorm, tripped again and hurt her wrist which now turns out to have been broken

1. Admitted being so drunk one night on holiday that she didn't know how she got back to the hotel.

So in my view that's 4 occasions in 4 months where there was excessive drinking plus drinking every weekend as standard. There has been some midweek drinking too but I believe that's eased off.

I have voiced concerns to my dad about this and that I'm worried he's getting tangled up with a functional alcoholic but he's just dismissed it.

I know he's a grown adult and can make his own decisions so from then I've kept my mouth shut and let them get on with it but, am I wrong in thinking this does not sound like a healthy relationship with alcohol?

Any normal or sensible person will get fed up of this eventually!

I have a friend like this and I only see her during the day now - every time alcohol is involved there will be some kind of drama. Either an injury or you're forced to rescue her from being run over or falling in a ditch. Or she's so embarrassing that it sobers you up and you just want to go home! I still enjoy her company, but I just wont go out with her anymore.

YANBU, the fact he's mentioned these instances to you means on some level, he must be questioning whether it's 'ok' behaviour. He might still be a bit too swept up in being in a relatively new relationship to be ready to accept she has a problem right now. I think your approach sounds sensible; you have to leave him to get on with it, but if he does question her drinking to you, you're allowed to voice your opinion.