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AuntieJay · 30/06/2026 21:44

My BIL's fiance left him just over a month ago which has understandably hit him very hard. He has however known he had to move out of their shared flat at the end of June since early May as they had already handed in their notice to the landlord before the break up.
He is going up to Scotland for a month in August so has not found anywhere to live. He is now intermittently staying on the sofa in our two bedroom flat in London as the other bedroom is used by our 1.5 year old.
He is completely in denial about the breakup and is moping around, not really engaging with my son and generally acting like a teenager, not a 38 year old man.
His mum seems to just feel sorry for him but is also discouraging him from going to stay with her up north due to his job (even though he can work remotely). And my husband just seems to feel too awkward sort it out.
AIBU to think he should have found somewhere to live for a month.

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whippersnapper55 · 30/06/2026 22:23

You need to tell DH very firmly to sort it out. Or speak to BIL directly and tell him you're fed up of him sleeping on your sofa and he needs to go and stay with his mother or get an Airbnb until he can find somewhere permanent. He's taking the piss!

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