AIBU to want to sell engagement ring

[TheBlueDeer]

I have an engagement ring from a previous relationship, it ended amicably, we are friendly, he has since married and had a child, I’m with someone new.
I’d like to sell my ring as what else am I meant to do with it? It’s a nice one from Tiffany. I could do with the dosh. I mentioned selling and my ex got very upset and suggested I should keep it for the memories.
The memories for me aren’t linked to an item. AIBU to want to sell the ring? Also any suggestions as to where I could sell an engagement ring lol

Eh? I’ve already said he doesn’t want it back. I don’t have financial trouble, I’d rather have some cash than a ring I haven’t worn for years sitting in the back of a drawer. I can respect the memory without keeping hold of the ring, what am I meant to do with it, keep it in a cupboard until I die?

No and not planning to have any

He's probably worried you'll find out it was fake!

It's your decision what you eventually do. You raise a point on the Mumsnet site and get some responses and then you do whatever. But seriously: the fact that you raise the point in the first instance (instead of just selling the thing) and the fact that you are now responding to a complete stranger (me) suggests to me that there is something unfinished going on in your mind which you should perhaps think about. What is unfinished about your relationship with your former partner? Is there something you still need to close down? Why have you still got that ring?

Oh absolutely sell it!

Do you need the cash? Do you like jewellery?
I would be more tempted to sell:part ex for something you really want eg a lovely pair of earrings as you will not get offered much by most jewellers
I have sold jewellery on eBay before but it’s quite risky

My mother had all 5 of her wedding and engagement rings melted down into a bangle- it's yours do what you like with it, resale on jewelry is often not generous though.

Bit weird to speak to him about selling it if it actually belongs to you and he doesn't want it back.

If you were going to sell your phone or laptop, would you speak to him about that too?

Is your mother Elizabeth Taylor or does she just have tiny wrists? 😁

I’ve still got my wedding and engagement rings. I keep wondering about selling. They don’t fit and we’ve been separated and divorced 12 + years. I was thinking of keeping for kids. I’ve also got one of my grandmother’s wedding rings. It also no longer fits. I did wear them all for a while on the other hand but I’ve definitely put on weight on a decade. Mine aren’t worth much. Wedding ring was bought from the joint account with his and he still has it. He did buy engagement ring but from an antique jewellery shop a relative worked and got us all good deals on anything gold at the time. I’ve also got a hold t bar necklace o don’t wear anymore which he bought me. Just sitting in the jewellery box. Kids were more into silver until recently when they’ve been asking about retro gold stuff!! Engagement ring is a 3 stone on a gold band. Very minimal carat of diamond I’m assuming.

after reading all the info I would sell it

Mine cost £6.5K new
had it valued (they only give you scrap value!)
I sold it on eBay for £1k which was significantly more than the (scrap) valuations I’d received

I will have it! If that helps 😂 only joking!
interested though that you’ve spoken to him about this if he’s remarried
I’d go nutz if I was the new wife!
it is difficult though I kept mine as I like diamonds! And wear mine on left hand my fingers have hit fatter so don’t think I can get it off even if I tried 😂

The valuations are insurance value, I.e how much you would have to pay for a similar replacement. Sale value will always be a lot lower.

Why would you go nutz?

Wonder what his wife thinks about his suggestion that you should keep it for the memories

Diamonds are a depreciating asset, they only have value because debeers monopolises the mining side and trickle releases natural diamonds onto the market.
as other have said cheap man-made diamonds have soaked up demand and so lower quality or smaller natural diamonds have really under performed. Why have a .75ct flawed natural when for the same money you can get a 5ct man-made?
In summary value isnt going anywhere, if it doesn’t have sentimental value sell it and put the money to work.

Do you need his approval/permission, it’s your ring that was presented to you as a ‘contract’. The engagement didn’t last and therefore the contract has been broken. Sell it or get a better paying job!

It’s not fake. I took it into Tiffany several times to have it resized and also have seen the receipt.

Was the eBay process okay? I was a bit worried about getting scammed

You’d be best off selling it at auction. Tiffany holds its value more than non branded, especially if it’s a decent size and good quality diamond.

My husband bought my engagment ring at an antique shop, and we both bought our wedding rings in antique shops. You won't get much for your ring.

(I still have an engagment ring from a lifetime ago, gathering dust, because getting pennies for it feels wrong.)

I doubt she would care, we are all adults. She was engaged before so I actually wondered if this idea was hers, as I know she is oddly sentimental about objects in a way I am not, and that he was not, while we were together at least.

My friend sold their ring (but they didn't speak to ex and it had only awful memories associated) but it took ages and don't think they even got 50% of what it originally cost. Considered doing it online but went through a local jewellers who specialised in second hand stuff eventually. I think it's fine to sell it - assume you never wear it so what's the point of keeping

My older brother got our mother's.

The bastard always gets everything.