AIBU feeling weirded out being called a "good girl"?

[ByTheRiverside]

I went in for a cystoscopy today. It's where they put a camera into your urethra to take a look at the tract and bladder.

It was a little painful for me. I winced a bit. No yelling though.

When the urologist passed the last difficult bit for me, I gritted my teeth a bit and tried not to make a fuss. Then he said:

"There you go! Good girl."

I'm a 39 year old woman. I was weirded out, but almost laughed because it's been a good quarter of a century since I last heard that.

AIBU for thinking that it was a bit odd?

Ugh. YANBU. Sounds like he ought to be a vet instead.

Maybe I should've shaved!

Ugh, that would make me cringe too.
I was called a good girl too when I was on a healthcare course placement. The man who said it was 10 years younger than me.
I also had a manager call me "child" instead of my name. I was mid 30s.

It's a bit of a funny one, isn't it?

"Atta girl" isn't too bad.

But "Good girl" is a bit too far gone!

It also makes me wonder if every woman is "girl", or if that's just a privilege for those who look a bit younger.

'Good Girl' is a brand of cat treats. Or what you say to a pet.
I could not imagine saying it to a human regardless of their age. Well, maybe a child. An actual girl.

Ugh, a random woman said this to me yesterday when I went to pick up something she'd dropped!!! Wtaf

It’s got some bdsm vibes i wouldn’t appreciate in that context at all.

OP I have had many many dealings with urologists and have only met one who was not a deeply sociall awkward sexist wotsit. Next time smile nicely and say "well done! You DID do a good job, didn't you?"

Ohh that would annoy me too! I think I'd probably have said 'woman, not girl'! My dentist once patted me on the shoulder and said 'you're a very brave girl' after removing all 4 of my wisdom teeth under local anaesthetic (I was too much of a scaredy cat to have a general!) but I was about 22 then so I didn't mind 😂

A delivery driver told me to be a good girl when he left once that was bad enough

It was pretty normal for my friends and I to call themselves girls up into their mid 20s. But as we kept getting older, I think reality caught up with us.😂

So at 22, I think I'd have felt similarly! Though maybe a bit confused in a professional context.

What is the context here?

This seems unhinged!

You will find that the telltale sign of getting old is when people start calling you “young lady”.

He picked up the trays and said you be a good girl now then left.

Someone called me ‘good girl’ and I found it patronising. I’m not bothered by men (or women) saying‘ok luv, duckies, etc’ but.‘Good girl’ bothered me.

I've said this accidentally to a fully grown adult before when my kids were small and my brain struggled to fully switch over from mum mode.

Probably not that in this case. Bit weird..

Since the perfume came out I've heard it a lot more, in all kinds of contexts. The "good boy" one was apparently a weird thing kids used last year.
Not what I'd have expected at a hospital personally.

'And you're a very good boy for helping make me better. Well done.'

Maybe he'd get the message.

My boss in his 70s says it to me a lot (36 but look late 20s) .... I'm not a massive fan but in general he means no harm he's just a bit old school is how I would describe not creepy vibes.

Yes! So true.

I fucking hate medics doing this.
Needs reporting so that some other poor woman isn’t spoken to in this demeaning way.
I am a retired nurse by the way.

This is really weird, you're not wrong.

It's completely inappropriate to tell a woman of 39 she's a good girl while her legs are in stirrups and you're sticking a tube up her urethra.

In a similar way that telling a man of 39 that he's a good boy while performing a prostate exam on him would also be wildly inappropriate.

I'd ask someone to tell him to pack it in, and why. Weirdo.