AIBU to feel unsupported after complications from breast surgery?

[Boobissues2026]

This is a shameless post in AIBU for traffic, I need desperate help. Long time user with name changed.
I had a breast re-aug with lift in Feb in UK. It was my third breast surgery and unavoidable as I was having issues with my implants. Surgery went well and all was fine until 10 days after surgery when I got an opening at the t junction on my right breast. Since then I have been dealing with a wound. Its now 20(?) Weeks post op and ive just tried 2 weeks of wound vac which ended with visible deterioration of the wound- it looks worse than ever.
Ive been travelling around 2 hours round trip every week for review and today the nurse basically just said she doesn't know what else to do. My surgeon is on holiday for 2 weeks and I feel like ive been sent away with no plan and no support and just to wait for him to return and pray it doesn't get worse in the meantime.
I cannot tell you how this is impacting my whole life, my family, work. I feel extremely low and suicidal at times, although I wouldn't do anything because of my kids.
I feel totally out of control as there is nothing I can do. I am in their hands. Im in pain and discomfort, physically and mentally every day and I am just looking for any advice, reassurance or just anything that might help.
I am aware that its not life threatening right now and is self inflicted so please don't tell me that.
Anything, even words of kindness would be appreciated. TiA

Get them out and keep them out. It's a lifetime of surgery, recovery and expenses otherwise. (I've had also 3 breast ops due to implants - no more). Breast implant illness is becoming more common also.

Yes, I agree with this but thats something down the line for when this wound is healed, i dont currently think the implants are impacting this wound. Thank you for your response though.

I think if the wound is open and looks infected, you should go to A&E before a very serious infection sets-in.

Thank you, the nurse did swab it today so hopefully no infection at the moment anyway.

I too think you should have them taken out now before more complications arise.

It sounds really worrying.

Have they tried packing the wound? Put a complaint in to Pals if you're not happy with how this has been handled.

I had a similar thing happen after my mastectomy with immediate reconstruction earlier this year so I feel your pain. I was in a dark place with no end in site. I couldn't exercise, drive, clean, get it wet...for weeks on end! Wound vac didnt work for me either. I ended up having further surgery with smaller implants put in - my original surgery was different to yours though!

Its the gravity, walking can split them open. I have had a mastopexy and had the same wound. You cannot heal if moving your arms around, even to spread butter on toast. I totally did nothing for 4-5 days and finally it started to close and clean itself up. I mean nothing.

Its possible the weight and movement of the silicone is affecting it more than you know. Stop walking aeound, even if for a couple of days..it's either that or constantly have it weeping and opening....

Yep agree with this. When it happened to me i was basically told to be on bed rest to keep the weight off the skin as much as possible.

I had a lumpectomy and the wound broke open after the radiotherapy. It took five months to heal - packing, vacuum suction (or whatever it's called), infections. It was soul destroying and really affected my confidence. Started healing when I began taking Vit C as suggestion eventually by a nurse. Still took another surgery to finally sort it though.

Really feel for you - it was a horrible time for me and DH.