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Neighbour who was a friend had turned nasty

15 replies

klarissa · 28/06/2026 23:47

Basically me and my NDN moved in at the same time as me a few years back.

After initially having an argument over parking we quickly bonded and became good friends.

She was a single parent to a newborn and I often gave advice, went to each other's
houses for tea etc.

My friend was housed a few doors down (our kids are in the same class at school and by pure chance we both bid on same house and were allocated houses a few doors down from each other ) has always gotten bad vibes about her.
Always talking about other neighbours and having that mean girl vibe about about her.

Her other NDN dosent engage with her at all as she finds her too nosy and intrusive after she began letting it be known she was monitoring her on the ring door bell.

Anyway she was always nice to me but she has now began a serious relationship and the dynamics of the friendship has changed.

Before she would talk for ages and we would have a good chat, she would always bring by bin in as she finishes work before me.

Now I have to say hello to her first and today all she said was "Hi" when I saw her.

Its like a funny atmosphere which began as soon as her boyfriend moved in.

Its just as funny atmosphere in general.

Maybe I am over thinking it but I have registered for a move (was thinking about it after splitting up with my ex) but it's not a nice feeling when I was nice to her when she has nobody and would listen to her talk for hours about her problems and now she doesn't even want to say hello.

AIBU to feel used?

OP posts:
andfinallyhereweare · 29/06/2026 00:11

What?

purpleme12 · 29/06/2026 00:35

So you just mean she's one of those people who drops her friends when she gets a boyfriend?

Wecanbeheroes26 · 29/06/2026 00:36

Sounds like you are over invested.

Devilsmommy · 29/06/2026 00:40

She used you when she was lonely with a baby and now she's got a boyfriend she doesn't need you anymore. Don't bother saying hi next time and if she splits up with her boyfriend don't let her worm her way back in.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 29/06/2026 01:05

……always gotten bad vibes about her……Always talking about other neighbours and having that mean girl vibe about about her.

This one? You don’t seem to like her!

BauhausOfEliott · 29/06/2026 01:11

You sound quite intense.

LaPerruque · 29/06/2026 01:20

So you were perfectly happy being friends with this woman until another pre-existing friend of yours moved nearby and decided she didn’t like her, and now you gossip about her with your other friend about things like how her other neighbour doesn’t like her either and how she has a ‘mean girl vibe’ — and you think she’s the one who has changed because she’s in a relationship?😃🙄

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 29/06/2026 01:42

LaPerruque · 29/06/2026 01:20

So you were perfectly happy being friends with this woman until another pre-existing friend of yours moved nearby and decided she didn’t like her, and now you gossip about her with your other friend about things like how her other neighbour doesn’t like her either and how she has a ‘mean girl vibe’ — and you think she’s the one who has changed because she’s in a relationship?😃🙄

Oh there are two different friends? Oh dear!

Friendlygingercat · 29/06/2026 01:42

It never does to get too invested in neighbours. Polite but distant is the best way

HoppingPavlova · 29/06/2026 01:45

Who did what with a Ring doorbell? Your other friend threatened the woman with the baby, or was it the other way around?

Chilly80 · 29/06/2026 07:36

Thats not a reason to move

YellowDogg · 29/06/2026 07:42

You are incredibly over invested in your neighbours.

Just get on with your life.

DDivaStar · 29/06/2026 07:53

She appreciated your support when she moved in, then she got a boyfriend and your mate who dosnt like her moved in nearby so she's shes keeping her distance.

Now you're thinking of moving !

Just consider what is best for you and your family and stop over analysing your neighbours lives.

klarissa · 29/06/2026 10:17

Apparently she commented to her other direct NDN about her visitors and since then hasn't spoken to her as she felt monitored.

My friend who lives a few doors down dosent like her as she finds her mean and how she is always talking about neighbours etc.

I wanted to move anyway have a fresh start as broke up recently with my partner.

Yes I will leave her too it.

No mother thinking it.
She would knock on my door asking for help/stuff and I feel very used.

OP posts:
Sartre · 29/06/2026 10:21

She sounds like a bit of a dickhead by everyone else’s account and even you started the friendship arguing with her… Probably not the best person to be hanging out with.

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