AIBU not to split extra travel costs during separation holiday changes?

[greatfrog]

I’m in the middle of seperation and currently we are both living in the same house. We had a two part holiday booked- the first week was husband and children visiting family whilst I worked (as between us we needed to stagger leave to cover the holidays) and the second week was a camping holiday together. Given the situation and us separating and filing for divorce, we’ve decided not to go on the camping holiday.
I’ve asked him to bring the kids back after the first week and he’s asked to extend time with his family for a few days but then just asked me to split the cost of additional travel back by half.

So I miss out on the holiday, miss out in seeing my kids and taking them on holiday and now I have to pay half for the travel back at a different time. His argument is that he could just go in the holiday and bring them back and I not see them for two weeks rather than 9 days.

AIBU not to feel I should pay for the additional travel costs. I might add that the divorce is his decision.

Don't cancel the camping trip and miss out on a holiday with your kids. Ask a friend or family member to come with you, or if you feel able to, go by yourself and the kids.

Why is there additional travel? Surely he is just bringing them back at a different time

How is there additional travel? Surely he was coming back anyway? Or do you mean that costs to return after 7 days are already paid but if he extends to 9 days he needs to rebook transport?

Can you not take the camping trip without him? So he gets a week either his family and you get the end week camping?

If camping is definitely cancelled, I would probably personally agree with him extending his family stay by 2 days BUT I absolutely wouldn't be contributing a penny toward it. But that's based on you not actually having any pre-booked plans already for that 2nd week.

Yes, I would tag team it. He takes them for the first week as planned and then you take them camping for the second week as planned. Why should you miss out on a holiday with your kids?

Either he takes the first week and you do the next week camping with them; he just does the first week and then they all come home because that’s what he can afford; or he pays for the travel to extend the stay with his family.

Are you happy not seeing your kids for a fortnight? If you don’t want to be parted for that long you need to say.

I assume he’s taking the children abroad to see family and then you fly out for the second week and then fly home as a family ? So changing their flight bookings will add cost ? I don’t see otherwise why there would be extra costs involved.

Personally I would go on the week alone with the children and then return home together or he travels home alone week 1.

what you do know is setting a president for future holidays, decide what you want now and in the future and stick to your guns, and basically if staying an extra few days costs him more then that’s his expense not yours

Thos seems the obvious solution.

Why don't you take them camping as planned but without your husband?

Just take them on your own, if you give in to him it’s going to be like this every summer. Set the rules now and stick to them.

Thanks all.
He is taking the kids to see family in that country the first week, then I was due to fly out to meet them after 7 days and return with them another 7 days later. He is now proposing he comes back after a total of 10 days, so needs to pay for additional crossing on eurotunnel, as he was driving there and back and I was going to fly. He does not want to go camping. The problem is that thee place booked requires a car, so it needs to be cancelled as I can’t drive there. So the costs to extend his trip are what he’s asking for half the funds for.

Why can't you drive there?

Just say no and use the extra 5 days for yourself. If he initiated all this recently Im sure you need to plan and sort out how to manage moving forward.