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The Nightmare Upstairs (Hulu/Disney+) - anyone else completely disturbed? [SPOILERS]

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DarkchocolateAndtea · 28/06/2026 09:43

Just finished watching this two part documentary, and I found it extremely disturbing. I could not believe the way the children were treated by most of the adults involved, including their mother. They seemed completely messed up mentally despite their academic success, and I really hope this won't ruin their long-term future, as it tragically does for many.

The stepfather seemed like a nice guy and had the patience of a saint, but of course, that is just a snapshot. Hopefully, he will continue to be a stable force in their lives.

I also thought the therapist was far too close to the family, which felt incredibly unprofessional. Instead of maintaining objective clinical boundaries to actually help the kids, he seemed completely enmeshed in the drama. Something did not sit right with him for me at all.

I don't know what did and didn't happen physically with the biological father; I do have an opinion on this, but I won't speculate on that aspect. However, I strongly suspect he was strict, authoritarian, and emotionally abusive in some way. On the other side, I found the mother highly unstable, and it feels like her own childhood abuse heavily influenced her reactions and conduct. There were just too many inconsistencies. The social media presence and the merch she was selling off the back of a situation that should be devastating I found really jarring.
Honestly, I think it is abuse in itself to allow your children to be barricaded up in a bedroom for 54 days. I strongly suspect they must have come out to live normally at times and then went back up to film the social media streams, their food wouldn't have lasted, and I just don't believe they stayed isolated that long without a break. I absolutely believe the mother facilitated the whole thing, or at the very least encouraged it.

In my opinion, both biological parents were just as abusive as each other in different ways.

What are your thoughts on this? Did anyone else watch it?

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DarkchocolateAndtea · 28/06/2026 16:41

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liamharha · 28/06/2026 17:23

Crazy documentary,didn't know who to believe . Definitely thought the therapist (motorbike man) heavily influenced the boys alleged recollections.,I found him a bit groomer like tbh . The dad does give me the creeps and his mum(children's grandmother ) does give the whole 'not my son' vibe that Ive seen some abusers mums have ! Then I'd think the original allegations I suppose could of been twisted into something more sinister than it was. It just left me feeling more confused at the end than ever and seemed nobody won it that story .I don't think I could convict the dad if I was a juror of sexual abuse the evidence was nowhere near strong enough (that does not mean he didn't do it ) it just wasn't beyond doubt for me . I feel like the boy might of delt guilty that his sister wasn't being fully vindicated and could possibly want to add weight to the allegations. Agree thing dad was very controlling and emotionally abusive and the mother seemed to be a little erratic.

DarkchocolateAndtea · 29/06/2026 14:45

Yes, exactly. There is a possibility that the mother jumped straight to an exaggerated physical scenario in her mind due to her own abuse and fragility. I cannot say for sure and nobody knows regarding that aspect, and I don't want to speculate, but it just did not add up for me. I felt deep down it didn't for the mother either, as she dropped something in court; I cannot remember exactly, but it was odd. I very much got the impression that she was looking for things to get the bio dad out of the picture due to his strictness and treatment of the kids.

Yes the grandma could not have one word said against her son who clearly had a controlling personality, which she will have seen. It was uncomfortable to watch. Two wives don't say this for nothing. I think mothers like this perhaps don't want to admit it as feel it is a result of their own parenting. I am not sure that she was completely in denial, but rather choosing to ignore/minimise certain personality traits.

Both parents were at fault in my eyes, and were not stable suitable role models for their children. Thank god for the step father who I hope lives up to the image he portrayed on the documentary. That being said, those 6 years of fighting will have undoubtedly had a detrimental effect on the kids.

It finished, and I was sort of looking for a third episode, and similarly was left feeling confused.

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