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AIBU to question my husband's treatment in a hospital waiting room?

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SadlyNotATroll · 26/06/2026 14:44

Posting here for traffic sorry. DH had a routine blood test on Thursday and was sent straight to hospital after some concerning numbers relating to his kidneys I think. He was there all day Thursday having tests and sent home. Was called at 10:30 on Thursday evening saying he had to go back in the next morning. I don’t want to over share his personal details on the internet but he is being treated with IV antibiotics but isn’t actually being told what for. Last night they had no beds and he slept in a chair in the clinic waiting room. I say slept but he didn’t sleep at all. Today he’s still there and being told he will be needing to stay in over the weekend but they have no beds. He has no privacy and is sat upright in a chair.

I get that the NHS is in dire straits, I really do. But how can he be treated in a waiting room chair and be expected to sleep and recover there? Do we have any recourse at all? Please don’t think this is a nurse/NHS bashing thread. The staff have been wonderful and it’s not their fault at all.

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CaptainMyCaptain · 29/06/2026 08:02

I don’t think that a blanket ban on treatment over a certain age is appropriate, but it does seem like the NHS does strive to keep people alive even when they’re very elderly and incredibly frail
I don't disagree with that and posted above that my family took the decision not to continue to prolong the life of my mother with severe dementia. That is different to what a poster was suggesting which was to turf them all out of beds on hospital wards and leave them to die on chairs, not to treat old people for pneumonia etc. Quite different. I am also in favour of assisted dying with stringent safeguards.

fiestatime1 · 29/06/2026 08:48

TinyTempest · 26/06/2026 22:23

DH had a routine blood test on Thursday and was sent straight to hospital after some concerning numbers relating to his kidneys I think

How on earth did he manage to get immediate results on the NHS?

Easily, the lab flag them
it happened to me where the GP rang me at 7pm to tell me to go straight to hospital
my dad was the same but they sent an ambulance for him as they were concerned he was actually dying (he was at work, they took him to hospital where he had two blood transfusions)

Mischance · 29/06/2026 09:04

Another piece of nonsense is that there have been occasions when a consultant has said over the phone that a patient needs admitting to the ward but in order to make this happen they have to go via A&E and do the plastic chair for hours game ...... boinkers, just bonkers!

BlueFahrenheit · 29/06/2026 15:12

It's the NHS, dear.

They'll happily leave you sitting in a chair unless you have a life-threatening condition.

Explore private treatment if you can afford it.

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