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Predatory landlord at DD’s Air BNB

20 replies

Chowpuppy · 24/06/2026 20:19

Hi
I honestly don’t know which topic to put this under as this doesn’t seem to fit under anything on list.

Context … DD is 19 yo and is currently on a 1 month fieldwork placement from university with 2 other female students. They are all friends on the course. They’ve had to find their own accommodation and for the 3 of them they’ve rented a 1 bed Air BNB cottage in tourist countryside from the 51yo landlord. Not overly touristy, village based countryside, small population under 100.

They are 2 weeks in. Within 2 days the landlord contacted them took them out for welcome drinks, got one of the students very drunk and had sex with her on the sofa in their AirBNB cottage. The student was so drunk my DD says she had forgotten they’d had sex, but was desperate to have sex with him again and despite DD and student 2’s attempts to talk to her, student 1 insisted she wanted to have sex with landlord, and left the property with him.

My DD and student 2 tried to talk to student 1 when she came back the following day as they were really concerned about her. Student 1 continued to meet up with the landlord and so it continued. However student 1 has been talking to DD and student 2 about what is going on between herself and the landlord as she is troubled in some way by it. DD has been listening to and supporting student 1 whilst also voicing her concern about how they got together. The landlord told the students that after giving student 1 a big discount he planned to get her drunk and have sex with her. This is my DD’s concern but student 1 is apparently not bothered by this.

Cut to 1 week in, landlord has got wind that the students have been talking about him, and invited them all round to his for drinks and a meal. My DD said she was trying v hard to avoid him and any contact with him. At the weekend he came over to his AirBNB and cooked the students a meal. My DD says he had a hissy fit after her and student 2 went into the kitchen “for too long” to talk and said they were ungrateful.

This seemed to turn him. He had now progressed to sending DD texts about the state of the property and threatening to fine her if she doesn’t clean the house up.

I’ve told her to take photos etc so she has times / dates evidence of the state of the property. We’ve stayed at plenty of AirBNBs as a family and she knows that the landlord is barely ever present apart from maybe on the last day to check all is well with the clear up.

Latest is that student 1 is now siding with landlord and she and DD have not spoken for 2 days. DD says she’s told student 1 what she thinks cos student 1 has asked her opinion and now student 1 wants DD to make friends with landlord. DD is staying away.

AIBU …
YES the landlords behaviour is ok and DD should keep her neb out.
NO he should be reported to AirBNB for predatory and / or harassing behaviour.

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Dontwearmysocks · 24/06/2026 20:24

This is really quite wrong. Who was the lead booker for the AirBnb - hoepfullly not the one shagging the landlord 🤞 - if not would advise the booker to contact Airbnb ASAP and explain the landlord is threatening them, provide evidence right away to Airbnb.

what a sleazebag!

parietal · 24/06/2026 20:25

This sounds pretty dodgy and like the landlord is taking advantage. But if student 1 is an adult and wants to be in a relationship, dd can’t stop that. All she can do is be scruplulously polite and dull and businesslike. And document everything. And look for alternative accommodation in case it all goes wrong.

also, the university should have fieldwork guidelines and a duty of care here. My uni strongly deters airbnb stays because they can be dodgy. She can talk to a mentor or advisor or student support line for help.

MandemChickenShop · 24/06/2026 20:31

what the hell am I reading. get the 3 of them out of there pronto. this is insane and should not be happening.

is there no one there from the university to support or coordinate, sounds absolutely bat shit

Acinonyx2 · 24/06/2026 20:32

My uni also says no airbnb for field work as they are relatively unregulated - and there should be some relevant guidelines. Otherwise - if they are all consenting adults - probably not much can be done.

Tigerbalmshark · 24/06/2026 20:34

I’d get my DD out of there asap - there must be another Airbnb somewhere. Even if you end up helping her to pay twice.

If she is out, the landlord should calm down. The one who wants to shag him can carry on.

LeedsLoiner · 24/06/2026 20:34

The student was so drunk my DD says she had forgotten they’d had sex, but was desperate to have sex with him again and despite DD and student 2’s attempts to talk to her, student 1 insisted she wanted to have sex with landlord, and left the property with him.

So she can’t remember having sex with him but was “desperate” to do so a couple of days later?

How are three of them managing in a one bedroom place anyway? Especially as the sofa appears to be “unavailable”?

Chowpuppy · 27/06/2026 15:22

Dontwearmysocks · 24/06/2026 20:24

This is really quite wrong. Who was the lead booker for the AirBnb - hoepfullly not the one shagging the landlord 🤞 - if not would advise the booker to contact Airbnb ASAP and explain the landlord is threatening them, provide evidence right away to Airbnb.

what a sleazebag!

Yes the lead booker is shagging the landlord.

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TFImBackIn · 27/06/2026 15:25

Ugh. If I were your daughter I'd be getting the hell out of there. I'd also be checking the place for cameras.

Chowpuppy · 27/06/2026 15:27

MandemChickenShop · 24/06/2026 20:31

what the hell am I reading. get the 3 of them out of there pronto. this is insane and should not be happening.

is there no one there from the university to support or coordinate, sounds absolutely bat shit

I can’t get the other students out, only my DD, but she is focused on her fieldwork, really doesn’t want to leave and is counting down the minutes until it’s finished and she can get away. We are going to see her tomorrow, just to see she is ok and is coping.

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Chowpuppy · 27/06/2026 15:37

LeedsLoiner · 24/06/2026 20:34

The student was so drunk my DD says she had forgotten they’d had sex, but was desperate to have sex with him again and despite DD and student 2’s attempts to talk to her, student 1 insisted she wanted to have sex with landlord, and left the property with him.

So she can’t remember having sex with him but was “desperate” to do so a couple of days later?

How are three of them managing in a one bedroom place anyway? Especially as the sofa appears to be “unavailable”?

No, it was the same night, around 30 minutes later. Student 1 didn’t realise / had forgotten she’d already had sex with him on the sofa then there was some chat between all 3 students, and landlord was waiting outside for student 1, while student 2 and DD, realising student 1 was blind drunk (non consenting) tried to save her from herself / the landlord.

However the sexual activity between student 1 and the landlord has continued throughout their stay, presumably not all alcohol soaked.

And yes, I have absolutely no idea about the sleeping arrangements myself. The most I can fathom is a bed, a sofa and god knows where the 3rd person is sleeping. They’ve got it arranged on a rotation system apparently! 🤯

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CorvusPurpureus · 27/06/2026 15:40

What’s your dd’s obligation to pay? As in, if she moves out, will she end up paying twice (& is that affordable)? Or would students 1 & 2 have to split the rent two ways for their remaining weeks?

Honestly, I think I’d be finding her a Travelodge & suggesting she offer to share it with student 2, if you can manage to pay. Student 1 can carry on shagging the sleaze & student 2 can decide what she’s most comfortable doing.

pasturesgreen · 27/06/2026 15:47

This is dodgy as fuck and as PPs have suggested, if this were my own DD and I could reasonably afford it, I'd be strongly encouraging her (and possibly Student 2) to move out ASAP and have nothing to do with that shitshow.

JohnofWessex · 27/06/2026 15:50

I might be having a full and frank conversation with the University 'student support' and suggesting that they are potentially puttung students at risk

I can provide suitable words from my time as a stoker in the Merchant Navy

Dollymylove · 27/06/2026 16:03

Its weird that student 1 wants to keep banging with a man old enough to be her father, but hey ho, as long as its consensual. Its the other stuff that is very troubling. He definitely needs reporting

LeedsLoiner · 27/06/2026 16:10

JohnofWessex · 27/06/2026 15:50

I might be having a full and frank conversation with the University 'student support' and suggesting that they are potentially puttung students at risk

I can provide suitable words from my time as a stoker in the Merchant Navy

Unless the university housed them there what consenting adults get up to in their own accommodation is not their problem.

SweepSqueaks · 27/06/2026 16:55

I wouldn’t want my daughter in this situation but all you can do really to assist her is help her find somewhere else to stay.

The one who has shagged the LL is at liberty to do so. I wouldn’t want to fuck a fifty year old when I was twenty something and I wouldn’t want my dd to either but this woman seems happy with her decisions and it’s not really for your dd to condemn her for that.

He’s not at the property all of the time because he’s the landlord, he’s there because he’s having sex with a person who is staying there.

But, I would be looking for somewhere else for my daughter to stay and getting her out.

MandemChickenShop · 27/06/2026 17:15

Chowpuppy · 27/06/2026 15:27

I can’t get the other students out, only my DD, but she is focused on her fieldwork, really doesn’t want to leave and is counting down the minutes until it’s finished and she can get away. We are going to see her tomorrow, just to see she is ok and is coping.

A student has been raped whilst on a university sanction field trip. Escalate immediately

MandemChickenShop · 27/06/2026 17:25

If they are 19 what year are they in? Undergrads in yr1? Normally uni would be wrapped up by now for the summer. Seems weird for 1st year students to be on a month long field trip without any supervision. are you sure you have the full story? if it is year one then she should just sack it off anyway as its not going to count as part of her degree. odd and dodgy AF

Chowpuppy · 27/06/2026 18:37

MandemChickenShop · 27/06/2026 17:25

If they are 19 what year are they in? Undergrads in yr1? Normally uni would be wrapped up by now for the summer. Seems weird for 1st year students to be on a month long field trip without any supervision. are you sure you have the full story? if it is year one then she should just sack it off anyway as its not going to count as part of her degree. odd and dodgy AF

Edited

End of year 2. No it’s part of the course, I’m sure about that as was discussed at open day. Yes, I also believe student 1 was raped that first night, as did DD, hence her concern to look after her friend, but student 1 went back for more, and doesn’t believe what happened to herself was rape.

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MrsMoastyToasty · 27/06/2026 18:55
  1. Tell her not to drink anything he offers. There's no way of knowing if it's spiked.
  2. Tell her to report him to air bnb
  3. Get the police if necessary.
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