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to be disappointed in work experience

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ScullyD · 24/06/2026 19:45

I’m currently retraining in a new industry, I’m not old but older than I would be if I was starting out. Anyway I sorted a placement myself with an amazing company.

But the boss I’m supposed to be shadowing doesn’t seem thrilled to have me there. He sits next to me but doesn’t tend to speak to me unless I initiate and said they didn’t even know they were supposed to be advising me ffs. I was told it was all sorted.

when I’m proactive and ask for things to do, he rustles things up occasionally and he seemed happy when I came in with his favourite coffee but I have to admit I’m disappointed!

he doesn’t offer to take me through anything or show me anything at all. I have to always ask. Anyway I’m in 2 more days this week then supposed to go home and come back next week but it’s going to be a lesson in endurance…I love the staff otherwise, they’ve been really encouraging and sweet. I can also see my myself enjoying the work otherwise.

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Isitevensummer · 24/06/2026 20:21

What a shame! It's very disappointing that you've been connected with someone who doesn't care to help you. worth sticking it out though

reelcat · 24/06/2026 20:41

That is really disappointing but at least you can use the experience on your cv

fifteenpercent · 24/06/2026 20:42

I can see why you're disappointed, but I can also see his point of view.

It is the fault of whoever was supposed to be filling him in on what's happening, I can imagine if he's just turned up to work to find out he's expected to show you the ropes he's just seeing it as yet another job to do on top of his workload without having been consulted.

None of that is your fault though, and it's a shame you're now not getting the most out of the experience.

ScullyD · 24/06/2026 20:58

fifteenpercent · 24/06/2026 20:42

I can see why you're disappointed, but I can also see his point of view.

It is the fault of whoever was supposed to be filling him in on what's happening, I can imagine if he's just turned up to work to find out he's expected to show you the ropes he's just seeing it as yet another job to do on top of his workload without having been consulted.

None of that is your fault though, and it's a shame you're now not getting the most out of the experience.

I absolutely agree it’s not fair if he’s been landed with me but at the same time, it borders on hostile. Def a problem of communication from the person who landed them with me.

He seemed happy when I brought him coffee but I want to know more about the role! I’ve decided I need to just think of good questions every day despite how painful it is to ask. I need to complete a detailed write up to get a good mark so…

also a friend of a friend said he’s a super guy, really nice etc, so im a bit surprised.

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