Aibu to ask how to get over crush on colleague?

[FruitPastille8]

I feel so silly. I’m single with one child and have developed quite a big crush on someone at work. I think actually he has a partner and children so I know it’s bad and nothing will happen. We have had a few daily moments where we give eye contact kind of intensely, I’m not sure why. And just little subtle things. I think he can tell I fancy him too. Anyway, I know nothing will happen.. and I wouldn’t go there but I’m wondering how to get over it? I wake up thinking of him and have butterflies. Something I haven’t felt for a couple of years or more! I feel daft.

Remember he’s got a partner and children whenever you think of him. That should help.

You don’t have lingering eye contact. You don’t think about him or fantasise about him. Get a hobby. Self control unfortunately sucks but if he’d cheat for you then he will cheat on you.

Crushes don't always have to go somewhere. You can acknowledge the fact you fancy him without doing anything about it. Don't feed the fantasy of him and think to yourself that he's probably happy with his partner/ wife and it will fade sooner or later.

Look up limerance. And imagine him picking his nose, farting in bed, doing other unpleasant habits.