I have posted about this before but have NC.
So my friend has a 2 year old daughter with her ex, they split up when their child was few weeks old.
The father has the child EOW after a court order.
My friend has moved on and has been seeing a guy since beginning of March and it was on/off for a bit but now he has practically moved into her house and it's a proper relationship now.
They get drunk most nights when DC has gone to bed.
But the issue is at handover on Sunday my friend arrived with her new boyfriend drunk.
He had driven her to the collection/drop off point as she was drunk.
This didn't sit well with her ex as he felt as if she was using her new man to cause some kind of reaction/fight and was extremely worried that she was drunk.
Her ex messaged me fuming and has said he is going file for full custody. I have already discussed out mutual concerns with him as she does seem to be going of the rails.
As soon as they picked up her daughter, her daughter was given to her mum who then dropped her of Monday morning to nursery.
The mum has also picked the child up from nursery today and will have her until she goes to nursery tomorrow so they can have some "us time".
I am quite appalled by all this, she didn't see her child for over 3 days and again today the poor child has been shipped of to her nan's so her and her new man can get drunk etc.
I addressed these concerns with my friend who brushed them off and said it was "all cool" but she is defo putting this new guy first.
Her daughter often looks as if she hadn't been bathed and just generally looks unkempt.
I really feel as if she has completely lost interest on her daughter as all she ever talks about is her new man.
Anyway her ex wants me to help him get custody.
I just want what's best for the child at this point.
Her ex and his family would love to have her full time.
I just want some advice really as unsure how to proceed.