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Witnessed fight and nobody did anything

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ComeOnNowww · 22/06/2026 10:49

We live next to a quiet pub, but it's been much less quiet in recent weeks.

Went to window and there were 10 peole having a scrap in middle of road. In 40s and 50s. Irish (from their shouts) and probably from traveller community - i only say that as that affects how open they'd have been to police interference i guess?

They are all fighting and punches being thrown.Pretty chaotic. My husband is stood behind me also watching. For about 30 seconds, until I kick into action and call 999. A woman is dragged from the scrap and becomes clear it's all about one bloke against the woman. He manages to pin her up against the fence, (others trying to hold him back) and he headbuts her properly. I am narrating all of this to the police on the phone saynig i am witnessing a woman being hit and headbutted in the street.

Husband is behind me (we are by our front door) telling me to get off the phone and stay out of it!! a woman is being assulted in the street! After the headbut the other men manage to sit on the bloke and drag him away and once that guy is dragged away to further down the street - everything becomes calmer v quickly. I tell the police that the violence has stopped andwoman is crying and everyone is comforting her, the man can't be seen. Lots of shouting randomly and chaos still. think the bloke is some way down the stretet shouting things.

The call handler says "can i confirm the fight has dispersed" and i say yes - and then they say thank you for the report and of course no police appear at any point. Call handler ended call pretty quickly.

Both my own husband and the police seem remarkably unconcerned about the assult. I mean to be fair by the time they would have arrived - the people would have probably gone. I don't have a ring doorbell or anything.

I feel a bit dismayed at both my own husband the police. AIBU to expect more a response?

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DinoLil · 22/06/2026 16:38

I saw two guys kicking the hell out of another guy who was curled up in a ball on the ground about 5yrs ago. I didn't think, I marched out and gave them a verbal sorting out. No one else did anything. It was only later that I thought that wasn't my brightest idea ever!

FestivalOfNight · 22/06/2026 16:42

CoolGreenBee · 22/06/2026 11:12

Someone did do something - you phoned the Police.

And people involved in the fight dragged the man away.

What were you wanting to happen? The Police to attend?

Edited

Well yes, as a crime had been committed - a woman was assaulted!

The police came out sharpish for an alleged racist comment when poor Henry Nowak was murdered.

Backedoffhackedoff · 22/06/2026 16:44

FestivalOfNight · 22/06/2026 16:42

Well yes, as a crime had been committed - a woman was assaulted!

The police came out sharpish for an alleged racist comment when poor Henry Nowak was murdered.

How do you know the police came out sharpish for a racist comment?

There are plenty of crimes the police don’t attend. It’s risk based

AliceMcK · 22/06/2026 16:46

RedPoet · 22/06/2026 11:16

Look this is not going to be popular but if it's travelers the Police don't tend to get involved because literally you and your husband's house would be attacked, you would be attacked by them, they would get on a phone and there would be hundreds turning up.

When there is a traveler funeral here all the businesses shut down even the GPS surgery shuts down because one slight kick off and you literally have hundreds of them kicking off smashing everything up the police are not capable or don't have a number to deal with it so they cannot get involved

This

i once called the police on travellers when working in a pub, that night every window in the pub was smashed in.

id never dream of getting in the middle of a traveller fight and I’d go mad if my DH did.

its not nice seeing a woman attacked but she was being taken care of and there were others involved. The chances are she would have turned on any outsider who tried helping.

darksideofthetoon · 22/06/2026 16:50

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AgnesMcDoo · 22/06/2026 16:52

If my DH told me not to report that to the police I’d be rethinking the relationship

I wouldn’t want him to get involved but report it yes.

StarPyjamas · 22/06/2026 16:57

AgnesMcDoo · 22/06/2026 16:52

If my DH told me not to report that to the police I’d be rethinking the relationship

I wouldn’t want him to get involved but report it yes.

He probably just wanted her to get away from her front door and stop advertising it.

ByWittyGoose · 22/06/2026 17:11

Your husband was right

I've worked next to a traveller camp and we witnessed similar. (A woman getting punched)
We ignored it and left them to it, because it wasn't worth the retaliation.

The police wouldn't come. The only emergency services we ever saw were the fire brigade (who really gave zero fucks) whenever they were burning plastics off stolen copper wire.

Gypsywomanx · 22/06/2026 21:03

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You are not being serious surely
Racist language
you are disgusting

darksideofthetoon · 22/06/2026 21:17

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scoobysnaxx · 22/06/2026 21:23

ThejoyofNC · 22/06/2026 12:20

Can we not make this about ethnicity please? A man beating up a woman in public in broad daylight was not due to being a traveller. It's no more acceptable on our culture than it is in yours.

I hope the woman finds the help she needs and you obviously did the right thing.

Of course it’s not more acceptable.

This is about the very possible, violent repercussions from travellers.

It’s not racist to acknowledge that. It’s face. You do not want them at your door.

Gypsywomanx · 22/06/2026 21:36

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Mumsnet can we do something about the openly racist user please?
I hope you never experience the hate and discrimination you are spreading x

IslandAdventure · 22/06/2026 23:44

GoneWithTHeWindJammers · 22/06/2026 15:44

In the words of Phil Lynnot

Friday night, they'll be dressed to kill
Down at Dino's Bar 'n' Grill
The drink will flow and blood will spill
And if the boys want to fight, you better let 'em
That jukebox in the corner blastin' out my favourite song
The nights are getting warmer, it won't be long
Won't be long 'til the summer comes
Now that the boys are here again

The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town

It's what they do.😀

A man headbutted a woman. Other men had to sit on him to stop him.

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