AIBU to expect shared spending for meals, days out and birthdays?

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I work partner doesn't long storey but recieve some money per month after bills and expenses we half what is left for personal spends!
What do other people do regarding spends do u go half's on any planned meals days out xmas birthday etc etc I'm getting annoyed as seems to be me spending all mine on us and him on him!

Look, if you want good answers you need to provide good information. As it is it is impossible to make head or tail of your situation.

So are you saying you work, he doesn’t but has some money coming in. You add your income plus his money then minus house and bills, then split the remainder evenly. So you both have equal fun money. You spend your share on you plus paying for joint meals out and he spends his on just him. Is that right?

You have a cocklodger. He is taking the piss and you need to tell him that ends now. If it doesn’t you tell him to F off.

Joint expenses like meals out should come from the joint money, not from your personal spends, unless you are treating him for his birthday or something

You dont have to do it. Tell him you cant pay for him any more and he needs to pay his way.

Why doesn't he work, I hope there's a good reason. If you don't have kids together could you live separately and he can sort out his own bills.

I don't understand how your finances work. It's not very clear.

But we have a joint account both salaries go in to and bills come out of.

Then we have another joint account with 'pots' which include shopping, cars, gifts, holiday savings, normal savings, Christmas, house projects and a couple of others.

Then we both get an equal amount of personal spends which is transferred to our own accounts

Anything left over (lol never really much), just gets put in the savings pot

Then you need to have a family spending budget before splitting the leftovers. Or use a credit card for family spending and pay it off as one of the bills each month. Don't keep being used.

Where does his money come from? For example - Is he not working and it's a small amount because he is disabled/unwell/recently redundant? Or is it a small amount because he is a full time weed smoker and gets a bit of cash in by selling 10 bags? There's lots of possibilities here.....

If you are committed couple everything is joint. End of. If you are questioning this because you work and he doesn't, then end the relationship now because it will never end well. Not now, not is a year or twenty...it's doomed because you know right now, at this moment you are putting more financially in and doubt that it fair