Help end medical misogyny. Sign our petition.

Help end medical misogyny.
Sign our petition.

Sign the petition

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

AIBU to think a man accused of throwing a child into a crocodile enclosure should not get bail?

1000 replies

YourKeenOliveNewt · 20/06/2026 03:37

Aibu to think the man who threw an unknown 3 year old into a crocodile enclosure shouldn't be out on bail?

If anyone could provide any insight into the reasoning behind why was granted bail I would be very interested to hear it.

AIBU: He's a danger to society
AINBU: Innocent until proven guilty

OP posts:
Thread gallery
5
Pinkchickenwine · 21/06/2026 21:15

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:03

Who cares where's "appropriate" 🙄
He threw a 3 year old into a pit of crocodiles. Lock him up somewhere we he can't do that any more so kids are safe. Anywhere will do.

Anywhere? What does that mean?

Honestly your responses on here are ridiculous!

Pinkchickenwine · 21/06/2026 21:17

PetuniaT · 21/06/2026 21:14

...so he's the victim. not the 3 year old child?

They may both be victims…

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:17

You may feel sympathy for both parties, but I do not. I do not care for anyone who does not have basic empathy for others and commits horrific acts. I don't care why or what's wrong with him. I don't care if he has the mind of a toddler or severe autism or learning disabilities or what the hell is wrong with him.
He simply needs to be removed. Forever. Preferably somewhere where he can't attack the poor minimum wage staff like that psycho who threw that poor boy off the Tate modern.

I can't imagine how it feels for the poor family to see discussions like this "oh, let's make sure he's in just the right facility for his poor little needs" just get rid of him.

My empathy is only with the boy, his family and all the people that had to witness that horrific act. I hope all of them get the support they need. To hell with that monster.

SleeplessInWherever · 21/06/2026 21:18

PetuniaTabbernacle · 21/06/2026 21:06

Genuine question: would you take your son, or be happy for carers to take him, to a venue containing dangerous animals?

I won't comment on the culpability of the man himself because we don't know enough. We don't know the extent of his disabilities, whether he understood the consequences of his actions, or even whether he intended to cause harm.

But if someone has severely impaired understanding and genuinely unpredictable behaviour, surely some thought has to be given to whether a venue containing apex predators that are not in fully secured enclosures is an appropriate environment for them. Without knowing more, that's where the biggest questions of responsibility lie for me.

Edited

In essence, yes - but with limitations.

He gets enjoyments from animals. He plays with animal toys in much the same way a toddler would. He’s currently 9, and around 2.5 cognitively.

Risk assessment wise however - I wouldn’t take him alone, and currently we would take him on reins. When he’s older, I would take him in a wheelchair that he was strapped into.

We don’t currently have carers, but in that case, I’d want the adults that took him to be very familiar with him.

He’s not actually currently a risk to others whatsoever, but he is a big fan of absconding if he gets the chance, so he isn’t given the chance.

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:18

Pinkchickenwine · 21/06/2026 21:15

Anywhere? What does that mean?

Honestly your responses on here are ridiculous!

How about a pit full of crocodiles?

But honestly, just anywhere that has a lock and key. A prison cell somewhere. I don't care.

SleeplessInWherever · 21/06/2026 21:21

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:17

You may feel sympathy for both parties, but I do not. I do not care for anyone who does not have basic empathy for others and commits horrific acts. I don't care why or what's wrong with him. I don't care if he has the mind of a toddler or severe autism or learning disabilities or what the hell is wrong with him.
He simply needs to be removed. Forever. Preferably somewhere where he can't attack the poor minimum wage staff like that psycho who threw that poor boy off the Tate modern.

I can't imagine how it feels for the poor family to see discussions like this "oh, let's make sure he's in just the right facility for his poor little needs" just get rid of him.

My empathy is only with the boy, his family and all the people that had to witness that horrific act. I hope all of them get the support they need. To hell with that monster.

Wow. Are you okay?

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:22

SleeplessInWherever · 21/06/2026 21:21

Wow. Are you okay?

No, not really.

SleeplessInWherever · 21/06/2026 21:23

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:22

No, not really.

I did gather as much. But thank you for your honesty.

Pinkchickenwine · 21/06/2026 21:24

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:18

How about a pit full of crocodiles?

But honestly, just anywhere that has a lock and key. A prison cell somewhere. I don't care.

No, your ridiculous answers like you’d throw him in the crocodiles as well shows that!

How do you think you’d lift him up to do that?

You don’t seem to be able to have a reasonable conversation.

Be careful what you want, your child may be affected by this type of disability…

B1anche · 21/06/2026 21:24

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:17

You may feel sympathy for both parties, but I do not. I do not care for anyone who does not have basic empathy for others and commits horrific acts. I don't care why or what's wrong with him. I don't care if he has the mind of a toddler or severe autism or learning disabilities or what the hell is wrong with him.
He simply needs to be removed. Forever. Preferably somewhere where he can't attack the poor minimum wage staff like that psycho who threw that poor boy off the Tate modern.

I can't imagine how it feels for the poor family to see discussions like this "oh, let's make sure he's in just the right facility for his poor little needs" just get rid of him.

My empathy is only with the boy, his family and all the people that had to witness that horrific act. I hope all of them get the support they need. To hell with that monster.

You do realise that, at any time, you could suffer a brain injury that leaves you with significantly reduced cognitive ability? Would that instantly make you a monster who should be locked away?

Pinkchickenwine · 21/06/2026 21:25

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:22

No, not really.

Fair enough, then maybe step away from the thread?

Allseeingallknowing · 21/06/2026 21:25

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:17

You may feel sympathy for both parties, but I do not. I do not care for anyone who does not have basic empathy for others and commits horrific acts. I don't care why or what's wrong with him. I don't care if he has the mind of a toddler or severe autism or learning disabilities or what the hell is wrong with him.
He simply needs to be removed. Forever. Preferably somewhere where he can't attack the poor minimum wage staff like that psycho who threw that poor boy off the Tate modern.

I can't imagine how it feels for the poor family to see discussions like this "oh, let's make sure he's in just the right facility for his poor little needs" just get rid of him.

My empathy is only with the boy, his family and all the people that had to witness that horrific act. I hope all of them get the support they need. To hell with that monster.

Have to agree!

Pinkchickenwine · 21/06/2026 21:25

B1anche · 21/06/2026 21:24

You do realise that, at any time, you could suffer a brain injury that leaves you with significantly reduced cognitive ability? Would that instantly make you a monster who should be locked away?

Or as I pointed out their child…

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:27

B1anche · 21/06/2026 21:24

You do realise that, at any time, you could suffer a brain injury that leaves you with significantly reduced cognitive ability? Would that instantly make you a monster who should be locked away?

If I threw children into crocodile pits then yes. Remove me from society. As soon as possible.

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:29

Pinkchickenwine · 21/06/2026 21:25

Fair enough, then maybe step away from the thread?

No, I'll stay, because it's actually making me feel much better to let it all out. Thanks for the suggestion though.
Like any of you actually give a shit if I'm OK 😂

Pinkchickenwine · 21/06/2026 21:31

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:29

No, I'll stay, because it's actually making me feel much better to let it all out. Thanks for the suggestion though.
Like any of you actually give a shit if I'm OK 😂

Ok, but honestly it seems to be making you more enraged! But only you know.

Fallox · 21/06/2026 21:32

If it helps the empathy for the perpetrator doesnt take away from the empathy for the victim.

I used to work doing assessments of wether people were fit for trial, custody etc. I've also worked in secure hospitals.

Part of that is motivated by getting it right for society

I imagine it was really hard for victims when I assessed that someone shouldn't go through the criminal justice route, but go to a secure hospital. Or when I stated they werent fit for interview.

However I was also motivated to protect the trial too. Getting it right meant that trials wouldn't fall apart, that perpetrators couldn't go through endless appeals and cases overturned because that's also traumatic to the victim. I would hate for someone to be found not guilty simply because tje evidence gathered became inadmissable because they were unwell.

I had a sense of responsibility for society at large. In cases similar to this going through the criminal justice route might make fulfill the want for blood but not when the trial falls apart and they arent found guilty. And not when they returned people back into society after the prison sentence to the same scenario.

Diverting people into hospital often meant they were in state care for longer, given proper care and release conditions that reduced the risk to public much more successfully.

I hold the rights of the individual and the rights of society at the same time when realistically "getting rid" of people isnt on the list of options

SleeplessInWherever · 21/06/2026 21:33

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:29

No, I'll stay, because it's actually making me feel much better to let it all out. Thanks for the suggestion though.
Like any of you actually give a shit if I'm OK 😂

Let what out though, how much you think disabled people have “poor little needs”?

You could have always said that, it just looks less ableist today.

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:35

While I'm at it, those useless carers who failed to control the monster should be locked up for a spell too.
And whatever overpaid social worker decided he should have 2:1 supervision while out (so was clearly known to be dangerous) but also that sending him to a zoo full of children with two gormless phone addicted, uneducated support workers was a good idea.
Lock them all up. Together.

LizardLore · 21/06/2026 21:37

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:22

No, not really.

No shit.

Pinkchickenwine · 21/06/2026 21:37

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:35

While I'm at it, those useless carers who failed to control the monster should be locked up for a spell too.
And whatever overpaid social worker decided he should have 2:1 supervision while out (so was clearly known to be dangerous) but also that sending him to a zoo full of children with two gormless phone addicted, uneducated support workers was a good idea.
Lock them all up. Together.

Do you think they should all be tried in a diplock court, with you as the judge?

You’ve no idea what happened, who if anyone is at fault.

Don’t believe everything you read in the DM!

SleeplessInWherever · 21/06/2026 21:38

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:35

While I'm at it, those useless carers who failed to control the monster should be locked up for a spell too.
And whatever overpaid social worker decided he should have 2:1 supervision while out (so was clearly known to be dangerous) but also that sending him to a zoo full of children with two gormless phone addicted, uneducated support workers was a good idea.
Lock them all up. Together.

Mine has 2:1 so he doesn’t throw himself into bodies of water, or play with fire, or run into roads.

Because he’s got silly little needs.

Kirbert2 · 21/06/2026 21:38

Temporaryusernamename · 21/06/2026 21:35

While I'm at it, those useless carers who failed to control the monster should be locked up for a spell too.
And whatever overpaid social worker decided he should have 2:1 supervision while out (so was clearly known to be dangerous) but also that sending him to a zoo full of children with two gormless phone addicted, uneducated support workers was a good idea.
Lock them all up. Together.

Not necessarily. Disabled people can need 2:1 for several reasons.

But you clearly aren't interested in facts. Enjoy your little rants.

LizardLore · 21/06/2026 21:39

SleeplessInWherever · 21/06/2026 21:33

Let what out though, how much you think disabled people have “poor little needs”?

You could have always said that, it just looks less ableist today.

I wonder if this is the same user who almost exclusively posts about how much she resents the disabled kids at her own kid’s mainstream school?

I hope so. If there’s two of them that’s concerning.

Pinkchickenwine · 21/06/2026 21:40

LizardLore · 21/06/2026 21:39

I wonder if this is the same user who almost exclusively posts about how much she resents the disabled kids at her own kid’s mainstream school?

I hope so. If there’s two of them that’s concerning.

She’s got a lot of cousin issues!! On the current name anyway.

Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is not accepting new messages.