SEAT etiquette

[EnormousLuck]

Firstly, I know it’s not THAT deep, as the kids would say, but I’m also doubting my judgement because I’m currently in some kind of crisis.
I took the afternoon to myself. I went to the GP this week and he wanted to sign me off due to my extreme fatigue and what he thinks is burnout, which I refused. Today, I forgot what condition I had, forgot his name, and also got a PCN ticket because I forgot to press the last button on my phone.
So I went to have a drink at a café that overlooks a lovely park. This was meant to be the start of some ‘me time’ and a chance to process what the GP had said and his concerns.
The restaurant was empty. The lady who took me to my seat made no eye contact, didn’t smile, and her general aura was very off. I ignored it after trying to be friendly. The seat she had given me didn’t have a great view, so I moved and thought I’d explain when she arrived with the food. I figured it wouldn’t be a big deal as the whole place was empty.
She brought the food over with the same lack of smile and eye contact. Moments later, another member of staff appeared with a family, including a lady in a wheelchair, and took them to the table next to mine with no difficulty, I might add.
She then came over to me and said, “There’s a reason you were given the table we did, as we reserve that area for pushchairs and wheelchair users.”
I replied, “Of course, I’m happy to move. Also, if the first lady had explained that when she brought the food, I would have moved.”
The family looked perplexed, as they didn’t seem bothered. I then asked her, “Would you like me to move?”
She said yes, so I replied, “But you’re not telling me where to move to. I’m very confused.”
At that point, I was still being polite, but I definitely had a bit of a tone because this could have been sorted so easily without making a scene. Did she expect me to carry three dishes and my drinks without being told where to sit?
I didn’t actually say that, of course.
I was really looking forward to going to this place, but I’ve left thinking I’ll probably never go there again

SO .. am I aibu to ask if I imagined the Oddness
and secondly - please give me tips on burn out with adhd and menopause because I can’t afford any more pcns and I’m not sleeping.
and I’m obviously overthinking everything .

I would've waited until the lady came back then asked if I could move seat,

She probably expected you to sit where you were originally

You’re right - I normally would have done that- I didn’t think and I own that .
but- I also think that if someone DOES do that in a restaurant- you can as the server - when you come back explain that you would need them to sit where they are placed , instead of leaving them to sit there , serve them their food and then send another member of staff to publicly ‘ tell them off. That’s the part I found weird a- that she didn’t tell me when she came and took my order or when she served me . But sent a second person , who’s tone was very patronising .
like I said I am clearly overthinking it

Perfectly normal to move seat in an empty restaurant imo.

Stop overthinking this and put your energy into trying to manage your burnout. I do hope the load is lightened for you soon!

Sounds like the cafe was empty because the staff lack customer service skills!

All they needed to do was smile and if necessary say "I totally get why you moved, but these 3 tables are the only ones that fit wheelchairs, so we'd need to ask you to move IF we need them. You're fine now, but thought I'd say just in case". Hardly a big deal.