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AIBU to worry my grief is leading me to drink again?

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WhatisHappeningtoMeLost · 18/06/2026 15:42

To cut a long story short, I lost a parent 2 & half years ago. I have been drinking on and off, I don't mean excessively, no spirits. However I haven't been a drinker since my younger years. I guess at first after the death it was understandable to have a few beers. There have been periods of time where I haven't drank, but as father's day is approaching I am feeling vulnerable and drinking again, and just as I felt better about things, I am talking 2-3 large beers but sometimes could have more withput restraint and feeling unwell (I am petite), but with a neurological health condition and on meds I know this is wrong, not to mention undiagnosed adhd. Some days I feel fine and honestly have been doing better lately. I lost a lot of weight after the bereavement, but I have put it back on now, healthy uk 10.
Now my appetite is going again, and I have alot of anxiety about my dcs, and just generally feel so guilty. I just want to numb things. Just as I think I am feeling my upbeat self, bang it hits me. Father's day is looming and I am making a lot of effort for dh, as our dcs are too young to do it themselves and I am feeling shit and disguise it all behind a big smile.

Sorry, I don't even know what I want from the thread! Maybe those who have similar experiences.

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Shesafancyflapjack · 18/06/2026 17:19

I’m sorry you are having such a hard time, the loss of a parent is a hard because you lose your anchor and connection with your own past, being bombarded with Father’s Day is bound to be hard for you. I would suggest that if you’re asking this question then regardless of what’s right for anyone else, it’s an issue with you as you recognise you're using alcohol (even 3 drinks) to mask or cope or numb your feelings. Could you find a counsellor that you can talk to? It really helps.

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