To sometimes long for no strings with a stranger?

[Leeajl]

As above really. Does anyone else ever wish they could have a no strings meeting with someone? Then go back to normal life.

No.

Yes.

Yes .

Does normal life have a husband or partner in it OP? If so then of course you are being unreasonable.

if you don't have a husband or partner surely a one night stand with a stranger must be feasible?

I’ve a DP, it’s fine but I sometimes long for it

I had married young and when single after separating wanted to experience ONS and no string sex. It wasn’t really all that. Two out of - three times were shit sex tbh and the third was actually fab sex technically but deffo missed that connection for it to be truly good, a bit like masturbating tbh. So Yabu. It is more enjoyable in your mind, keep it there.

Why is she unreasonable? I chose my career, I enjoy it and I think it was the right decision... but I fantasise about what it would be like to be a pop star 🤣

OP I don't think it's unreasonable to idly want things, occasionally. Obviously you'd be unreasonable to do it! But that's not what you're asking.

Personally I would see wanting to have sex with a stranger as disloyalty to my partner.

However having seen these type of threads on MN before I'm aware a lot of women seem to think fantasising about somebody else even while they are having sex with their partner is perfectly acceptable and normal.

I just don't see the harm in idle fantasies. It's the same to me as deciding what I'd do if I won the lottery or imagining what I'd look like with a smaller nose 🤣 I think it's natural to occasionally want what we don't have. Of course if there was a specific stranger in mind or the feeling was persistent or upsetting, then it would be a different issue - and likely a problem.

I once had a similar conversation with one of my best friends. She said that she believed that being in a relationship meant that you (should) never look at anyone else again or have any sort of fantasy about anyone other than your partner, and that doing so was tantamount to cheating. My take then, and now, was that a good relationship understands that the potential for fantasy and even desire doesn’t vanish - indeed it can be healthy- but we choose not to act on it because we love and respect our partner.

My sense of limerance is too strong.

When i am single only, and actually not anymore!