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To feel sadness at ex’s wedding pictures

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thiswaslongtimeago · 17/06/2026 21:06

I’m in my early 30s, married relatively happily, with 2 kids. He’s a couple of years older than me. We dated when we were in our early / mid 20s for 6 months or so but added each other on Facebook and Instagram and, as his sister was his flatmate, I also have her on Facebook. The “breakup” (if you can even call it that? We weren’t official, just hung out and went on dates) was very friendly so we never deleted each other on social media. He was a great guy but we broke up because I never really felt a spark and didn’t find his jokes funny, I guess I wanted something more. However, he was lovely, we got on well, on paper it was almost perfect and I wish it worked out. Then I met my husband whose jokes I found hilarious (still do), there definitely was / is a spark but on paper he’s perhaps not as perfect.

Very recently this ex got married and he’s obviously been tagged in a million pictures, as has his sister. The girl is beautiful and seems nice - he absolutely deserves it. But I can’t help but feel a wave of sadness or maybe it’s nostalgia or “what ifs”… What’s happening? I do love my husband a lot.

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whyohwhyisitalwayswet · 17/06/2026 21:54

I can only speak from my own experience, when I see pictures of my ex with his girlfriend, I feel huge relief. No nostalgia whatsoever! But, I'm in a very happy healthy relationship. I imagine something in your current life must be causing you to feel some discontent, else why would you be nostaligic about an ex?

Conchiglie · 17/06/2026 21:57

I am happily married to my DH, but I think it's quite normal to feel a pang of nostalgia in a "what if...?" kind of way when your ex gets married.

darksideofthetoon · 17/06/2026 22:08

Grass is always greener. Probably best to hide his feed on your FB or just delete your account altogether.

SkippitySkoppity · 17/06/2026 22:17

You say yourself that there was no real spark and he didn't make you laugh. He may have been, and probably still is, lovely and kind but if you were married to him now you'd be yearning for someone who set your knickers alight and made you hoot with laughter. You'd be saying 'why did I settle for the Nice Guy?'

You're probably feeling a bit bored or dissatisfied with some elements of your life at present. Give that some attention rather than thinking wistfully of this nice man who you were never really that into.

suburberphobe · 17/06/2026 22:23

I never really felt a spark

Without that spark it will never come to anything. Sorry OP.

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