AIBU to ask nursery to continue potty training our twins?

[Handsfreeme]

My twin boys are 27 months old and we’ve been potty training them for the last week.

They are now wearing underwear during the day and haven’t had an accident for 4 days. They are doing both wees and poos on the toilet, including when we’re out of the house or visiting grandparents. They don’t usually tell us when they need to go, but they will hold it and either go when we take them or tell us they’re “all done” if they don’t need anything.

When I told nursery we were potty training them, on Monday they said the boys had shown distress around using the toilet and that they aren’t ready. They also said their speech isn’t developed enough yet and that they will keep them in nappies. They only attend nursery two days a week but it’s 2 full days 8 hours.
The nursery manager said they would revisit potty training in a couple of months, but I’m concerned that putting them back in nappies for two full days a week could confuse them when they are successfully using the toilet everywhere else.

I don’t want to be a difficult parent or pushy, but I also feel their progress over the last week hasn’t been taken into account.
Would you speak to nursery again and ask them to trial underwear, or would you leave it and let them continue using nappies at nursery for now?

Me and DH worked sooo hard to get them to this position and we’re stressed

I work in a school nursery and nursery are being ridiculous!!!!!!!!!!!!

i thought this!
We worked our butts off teaching them and I don’t want them confused as to why 2 full days a week they’re in nappies

Maybe a few days ago they showed distress because it was new to them still and new environment new potty etc but for the last 4-5 days even out and about they’ve been great!

Should I talk to nursery again before Friday?

I would certainly speak to them. They’re being ridiculous.

They can't be arsed. I'd ask them to carry on , don't give nappies, if they put them in them say you're leaving.

No they’re being lazy and would absolutely push back. I wouldn’t be surprised if there was a policy along the lines of 3 accidents in one day and they pop a pull up on but to not even try with them is unacceptable IMO.

That's outrageous. If your children are successfully using the toilet at home then they need to continue it.

DD was fully toilet trained around the same age and when we put her in nursery we said she would need help making sure she was clean but otherwise fine. We got no pushback from the nursery.

Be those parents, don't confuse DC.

I’d speak to them about it, but when my Dc was potty training she had to be able to tell them when she needed to go and also to go to the toilet herself and use it, be able to pull her trousers down etc. They would obviously be there to help and did remind her to go and take her, but there’s lots of other kids in the room and they won’t be able to do that all the time.

Nursery are being very lazy and refusing to do their jobs. I would be telling them that you are appalled at the laziness of the staff. I can see that your twins inability to communicate might make it difficult, but I'm sure they could teach them a way of communicating. It's not like your boys are terribly young to potty train either, they are a good age. I would honestly be looking for a nursery with staff that aren't too lazy to support the children.

Just send them with plenty of spare pants should they have an accident and tell the nursery they no longer wear nappies and would like to use the toilet from now on. Just ask them to ask your DC now and again throughout the day if they would like to go to the toilet.

Say it friendly but in a way that it’s not open for discussion.

They are ridiculous. DD was trained at the same age. Her nursery asked for a few days at home to see whether it stuck, and then they were happy to take over. We had to send in 10 extra pairs of pants and additional clothes.

Sorry I wrote and ran earlier!!
Although our children are slightly older (3-4) we always support toilet training as a priority! The fact that yours at 27 months have already gone 4 days with no accidents and doing both wees and poos in the toilet so amazing!!
They will be unbelievably confused wearing a nappy at nursery and then pants at home and will likely put potty training back by ages as they simply won’t know what they’re supposed to do!
I simply cannot believe what nursery’s thinking?!?!
We always ask that parents send the children in clothes that are easy to take off, ours usually wear school uniform but while potty training we ask that they wear joggers as they’re easier to get on and off quickly and pack loads of pants, socks and joggers as well as spare shoes!!
One of my pet hates is modern nappies as children never know they’re wet! We had a little one this time last year starting reception in September who was still in nappies and we said let’s just go with pants so if he has an accident he knows he’s wet!! He was dry within a week!!
I’m not really sure how to broach the subject with nursery as I can’t really understand what they’re thinking!!