Is dating my ex’s colleague a bit shit?

[Growla]

First of all I am not even that much of a relationship person. Have been quite happy being single in London for all my 20s. Have focused more on travelling. So I’m not a drama llama at all so it’s weird to find myself in this situation. I’m 31.

Ex fiance and I ended our relationship on decent terms. I wasn’t a fan of the city he needs to live in (pilot not able to transfer so easily). But we just weren’t right for each other either. Had more of a brother/sister dynamic

I ran into a colleague of ex fiancés at the gym when I was back visiting. We had met only once before but there absolutely was chemistry. Just got a message on Instagram being asked out for a drink. I would love to get to know this other person more if I’m being honest with myself. But I just feel like it looks pretty crap from the outside. Nothing shady went on ie an overlap.

Im not desperate to be in a relationship. But part of me thinks why not? It’s not every day when I actually meet someone I like romantically

They do not work together really but run in to each other somewhat regularly

I'm in the Why not camp!

If this guy and your ex are just incidental colleagues I don't see a problem, or even why it would need to be discussed, as it doesn't sound like they are even friends as such, from what you write?

Although if you met him whilst visiting a city you won't live in, and he works at the same company as your ex, is there any point?

They golf with other colleagues and go to the pub. Friendly but don’t have an individual friendship as such. Text about sport I think

They text each other? That sounds much closer than you are making out. It may be awkward but I don’t understand when you went back is that somewhere you live day to day or where your ex does? How long did you break up also as if it’s recent might not be worth the agro

Nothing you've said suggests any reason at all why not.

we called it quits officially 4 months ago.

they text re both supporting the same football club (not a very popular club)

I moved to the city but moved back to London post break up. I was back there for a friend’s 30th

Go for it