Childhood traumatic event remembered

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CONTENT WARNING - contains stuff about sexual assult

Not really an AIBU but something that has been bothering me after going through therapy and going through my past.

So when I was a child - no older than 8 I went to the doctors with suspected pin worms. During the visit my mum was sent out of the doctors room and he proceeded to examine me in a way that if it happened to one of my children i think I would be jailed for GBH or worse. My parents didn't challenge what happened but have acknowledged it was not good. I remember that moment and the bits around it like what colour my clothes were with a clarity I dont have for anything else from that time in my life

My feeling is I was assaulted under the guise of checking me over but ill never know for sure as its nearly 40 years ago. But I worry ive misremembered and maybe how I was examined was usual in the 80s - its just a feeling that i cant shake

I suppose my AIBU is

You are BU as your memory is from a long time ago and you simply don't have the facts

You are BR this was a massive breach of trust by an authority figure

Oh my goodness I'm sorry not to directly answer you but I have a vague memory of this happening too, similar time frame and I was thinking about this last night after having not for years. My recollection is much fuzzier to extent I question my memory. Are you happy to say what region you're in? This took place south west

I'm sure a parent would not be asked to leave the room these days, but doctors performing extremely intimate examinations on patients is par for the course.

I had pinworms as a child and had to drink the most repulsive medicine to get rid of them. I wasn't examined by a doctor for it though, just given the vile sachets.

Have you tried reframing the memory as a purely medical, albeit highly unpleasant, procedure? I'm not an expert, so apologies if this is not helpful.